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I dunno if I even wanted to go into that subject.
I'm somewhere between women (at least in England) having incredibly stuck-up attitudes and dating apps being enshittified to the point where they're more like scams.
I legit get no matches apart from Coffee Meets Bagel and OkCupid.
99% of the profiles curated to me for matching on CMB are East or South East Asian women, and this isn't me not wanting to date Asian women. IDGAF about ethnicity when it comes to partners. I mean I'd rather not be used as the means to a spousal visa by someone who isn't even in the same continent. I met a previous ex on there, and she just wanted to use me for help learning English.
OkCupid is even worse. I get a lot of matches but it's all GPS spoofing SE-Asian and African women. Some are legit, many try to lull me into a crypto scam or ask me to Venmo them money for a passport application.
Part of the reason I got into my current hobby (singing, karaoke) was to meet people outside of apps. Apart from someone making out with me once, it's only otherwise led to gay men hitting on me.