93maddie94

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[–] 93maddie94@lemmy.zip 1 points 48 minutes ago

We had hot tea as a unity thing for the two of us, but he said it was a Chinese tea ceremony which is where the bride and groom serve tea to their families.

[–] 93maddie94@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Best: can I say my own? Everything was tailored to my tastes so I had a pretty good time. It was summer but we had the ceremony and reception in the same place (indoors with AC), the catering was provided by the owner who was a professional chef, DJ did both live and recorded music, sparkler send-off at the end, had a nice little bridal room downstairs to get ready and keep stuff safe. The only thing I would change was the officiant. He was an old family friend but made everything too Jesus-y, mixed up light year as a unit of time in front of a several meteorologists and nasa scientists, and claimed that something we did was a Chinese tradition despite us explicitly telling him it was not and neither of us having a bit of Chinese heritage.

Worst: overall it has to be my brother’s last year. So first, my grandma had a stroke like two days before and was taken off life support during the rehearsal dinner. The officiant forgot his notes and spend most of his speech talking about how marriage is hard and you might want to get a divorce but you shouldn’t. And the speeches from the best man and maid of honor were cringy and naive (to be fair they were all like 19-21 years old).
Runner-up to my best friend who got married in a non-air-conditioned barn on a humid July day.

[–] 93maddie94@lemmy.zip 1 points 15 hours ago

I call my mom “mom”, but now that I have a kid I use her grandma name more frequently. Honestly it’s a little easier to call her that, I have some unresolved stuff and while we’re friendly the mom term is a little much. My daughter calls me “mommy”, but usually doesn’t enunciate so it’s “mah-ee” most of the time.

 
[–] 93maddie94@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

I read How to Raise Children Who Aren’t Assholes by her. It was a decent read. I’ll probably pick this up but I feel like so many books just regurgitate the same info