this post was submitted on 05 Oct 2023
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TL;DR: no. Definitively no.
NTL;R: Okay... let me chew on this.
For me, at least, non-contributive ("toxic") [see footnote*] behaviour would be: assumptions (including witch hunting), decontextualisation, "didn't read but still replying lol lmao", insults, "I dun unrurrstand", whining + entitlement, and "chrust me" = "I take you for gullible". And those things happen far, far less in Lemmy than in Reddit.
For the poster complaining about Lemmy, "toxic" would be, instead:
I know that what I'm going to say is anecdotal, but it's still worth sharing: I see the difference specially because I used to moderate a small Reddit sub, and I mod a Lemmy comm nowadays. People here are more reasonable and contributive; I barely need to intervene here, and even then 99% of the time it's like "don't do that" "okay". In Reddit though? Well.
Depending on which instances yours federates with, you'll get a different experience. lemmy.world and lemm.ee in special tend to gather Reddit-like critters alongside a few good posters, so instances where behaviour is a bit more monitored (such as beehaw) tend to defederate them.
I'm no coder to claim that the issues are "backend" or "frontend". Instead I'll say the issues that I see:
So... come on, the platform works. It has its issues, it's likely worse from lemmy.world due to the amount of posters, but it works.
Name them. Otherwise it boils down to "chrust me". Unless referring to the CSAM event below.
I seriously believe that the approach taken by the lemmy.world admins to close down !lemmyshitpost was more sensible than the actions that I'd expect any Reddit instance (oh wait, there's only Spez's) to take. If the same happened in 2023 Reddit, here's what would likelyhappen:
Dude. You're in Reddit. That's the pot calling the kettle black. Reddit makes even Faecesbook's community look wholesome in comparison, it's on par with modern Twitter. Lemmy is considerably nicer than Reddit.
And if you still want something nicer there's always Beehaw. I'm being serious - for people who want/need an environment with more monitored behaviour, it's a go-to place. Provided of course that you don't want to eat the cake and have it too, by behaving in a way that you don't want others to, otherwise they'll show you the door.
Footnote
It's a bit of off-topic, but this post is a great example on why I don't like the word "toxic". It refers to everything and nothing at the same time; it boils down to "I don't like this", but dresses it as if it was an intrinsic feature of the object (in this case, Lemmy or Reddit). Note how the list of things that I'd consider "toxic" are completely unlike the person complaining about Lemmy, and if you gather a third person odds are that you'll get a full list of other things to be considered "toxic".
I think what they meant by contrarians is people who disagree for the sake of disagreeing without any actual argument , usually in order to stir up drama or engage in a circlejerk