@LemmySuxNow@reddthat.com People don't like change. Most people will disagree with you. Outside of coops the instances are dictatorships people are fine with putting up with because they can easily make accounts on a different instance.
I would encourage you to check out any P2P forums and or look into Reddit styled apps built on Nostr, those would be closer to what you're getting at.
@baldur@normals.me PeerTube. I would recommend hosting your own instance and or finding an affordable provider. You can ask those that want to post for donations or subscriptions to help cover costs