gramophone_mind

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Thank you for these words. When my ordeal began, it was hard to realize this straightout because that person looks and acts totally normal, except for the many microagression. They seem obsessed with how others perceive them, so their pristine image and me being a newcomer made me constantly blame myself until that slowly faded a bit each day as I came to realize the absolutely wise words you just typed above.

I think that could be a helpful trick. I noticed someone else in our office did that to that person and this person got quite uncomfortable. :)

The script is that I am poor and helpless and need thei constant advice and directions to function.

Ignoring them makes them angry. Several times I tried to ignore something and get distance but it always increases their desire to "check" me and make sure I'm okay and in-script. So avoiding or ignoreing them exacerbates this. :(

Narcissists at work. Seriously. Manipulative fucks who are ladder climbing and have little interest in the field. They make my life harder. I currently have to deal with one at work and I know many more are up ahead. How do you handle someone who basically shows classic signs of narcissism, and controlling and toxic behavior, especially when the person themselves are not in the slightest open to the idea of changing or being wrong or seeking help.

I've tried setting boundaries, being nice, being sneaky, being absent/avoidant and nothing seems to work. This person has chosen me for some reason to be their pet or something and they get angry when I sway from the script (which is the case on a daily basis).

Yeah man like I explained, the way you phrase things or the way you dramatize makes you look like a wolf clearly dressed as a sheep. Sort of like a bad actor. Maybe only to me, but hey I only represent myself. Other readers can freely engage you.

Ps. Yes I have considered that and found it not to be true after careful consideration.

I am both Palestinian and European. Or is that another thing you are oblivious about? That one can be both?

No one said anything about guilt. Just innocence.

I don't think you are misunderstanding anything.

And I don't know why people do weird stuff like pretend not to know something to "bait Americans" into a discussion. Maybe they get off from it.

And I like to have conversations with people who don't bait others into a debate by playing innocent.

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Anyway no harm done, and I'm just a "fellow European" so I'm not the target here.

Yeah, I find it hard to believe. Declaring innocence at each sentence is a red flag. I don't personally care, but I can't get myself to believe you either.

Funny though how I see it pulled out so often in response.

It's the way you dramatize it and declare innocence at every step that makes this a red flag. Don't get me wrong, I don't personally care, I just can't get myself to believe you. The whole Europe thing looks like you are baiting Americans into the discussion.

I'm based in Europe and I am yet to meet anyone ever who still needs to speculate about Trump's stance on stuff.

Anyway I hope you enjoy the discussion.