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There have been studies showing no loss in productivity too. But rich people want to fuck us over for no reason 🤷‍♀️

I mostly agree, except for the last part about marginalization. The idea you can always overcome whatever disability/disorder/whatever with hard work and the right mindset is not accurate at all. And that's not you wanting to be a victim, it's you advocating for what you need. Accommodations exist for everyone, they just cater to abled/neurotypical people instead. Once I finally admitted to myself I was disabled and stopped trying to live my life like I am 100% able bodied improved my life A LOT.

And disabled/chronically ill/neurodivergent people DO face a lot of discrimination regardless of if you want to admit it or not. We should be fighting for improvement in treatment, acknowledging people treat you like less of a person doesn't mean you actually are less of a person. ESPECIALLY in the current political climate... once LGBT+ people are dehumanized sufficiently disabled people are going to be next.

I don't disagree that neurodivergent people would have a way better time if people/society took them into consideration more. But I am low support needs and still consider it a disorder. My boyfriend has ADHD and agrees. While there are a lot of things that would be fixed by having sensory friendly environments for example, there are still a lot of things about being autistic that hinder me that I wish would go away regardless of what accommodations exist.

Median rent right now is $2k. Rule of thumb is 1/3 or less of income spent on housing. So that's $6k a month. With comes out to 72k a year, pretty close.

All these articles act like workers have become so uppity and demanding but all they want is to live reasonably.

I would consider a new dentist, and probably a sedation dentist if you have issues with numbing.

Depending on what you are having done, there is also laser dentistry. And my dentist has some special drill where he has done shallow cavities for me with no novacaine and I didn't feel shit except the usual drilling/pressure feeling.

This dentist just sounds shitty. Yes you were tensing up but you already told them a bunch of times you were in pain. They should have had a plan in place that y'all had agreed upon for dealing with a situation where the lidocaine wears off. Or maybe schedule you at a time where there are no other patients so they could go as fast as possible with no interruptions. Maybe I am expecting too much here but my dentist is the bomb and would easily do that for someone.

Pretty similar experience to what others have mentioned, so mostly echoing what they said.

With a shutdown I "hit the wall" so to speak. I could have been fine when things started out but I have reached the point where whatever it is has built up and I have reached my limit of overstimulation. I will stop participating in conversation, if it's really bad I won't even move much or be paying attention.

Because I grew up with "you're not autistic you're just high maintenance" parents I learned to "save" my meltdowns. I may have short responses or act annoyed when I'm around others. Inside I am raging. And I know I'm raging for no reason aside from the environment, but I can't help it. Which makes me more mad lol. Overstimulation is not just "wow it's loud in here" it's physically painful to me to continue to exist in that environment. Once I get home I rage cry.

Another thing that can make me shutdown or have meltdowns is plans changing, not only overstimulation. When I have plans it is like my entire life leading up to that point is built on the fact that I will be doing X at Y time. I have spent the time to mentally prepare myself to do X at Y time. If those things change, everything feels fucked up.

Recognizing when I am becoming overstimulated helps me a lot now that I actually understand what is happening. If I get to take a break and go for a walk or go somewhere quiet it usually prevents me from having a full on meltdown later. Also just... Admitting what is happening. Like "I am angry because the time changed from 3pm to 5pm and I was not mentally prepared for that." But some situations are just too much and it ends up happening anyway.

And people where the microphone just fucking hates you. It always gets what I am saying wrong so I just use the keyboard

Yikes, I hope these people's entire family has some sort of protection. It's normal for them to attempt to kill anyone they don't like.