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I just got back from spending the night out with my best friend who is also another friend’s girlfriend and I’m super conflicted. It’s a real mess of a situation and I’ll likely be thinking about it obsessively for a while. The rest of my life is also a big mess, but I’m trying not to think about that.
Tricky situation indeed. It’s worth exploring your feelings before you find yourself going mad over it anyway. At least that’s what happened to me, your mileage may vary. What helped for me was journaling and then eventually therapy which has been extremely helpful
Good tips, but I have a therapist and we’ve been going out to bars and stuff multiple times a week for two years. I’ve really had too much time to think about it. The going crazy part is that they’re looking like they’re gonna break up soon and I’m worried I’ll be blamed despite not crossing any lines. I’m a serial over-thinker so I’m no good at stopping.
Dang, seems like you two are definitely gonna get together at some point. Sometimes I find that while being honest can make a friendship/relationship go through a rough patch, it still ends up being such a relief to vocalize what I’ve been bottling up. Maybe your friend’ll be pissed at you but if you’re hanging out with his girlfriend that often, he’s probably stuffing down his feelings too. Facing the facts can be tough and even if it ends the friendship, you might find you only want to surround yourself with people capable of coming to terms with reality.
I appreciate your time and advice and I think you’d be right considering the sparse context I’ve laid out, but I’m not bothered by what I’m holding back. I promised her that I wouldn’t repeat what she told me and I don’t feel ashamed about that. He also tends to freak out when anyone gives their opinion on how he handles his relationship anyway.
I also think we’ll end up together at some point and I want that too, but I worry the consequences would be ruinous for him and I can’t want that for my friend even if he is a shitty boyfriend and won’t take any advice.
I’m kinda like a leader or big brother to my friend group and I organize everything and help everyone and everyone generally follows my lead on things. He’s already distancing himself from us altogether and I worry about the people he’s spending time with now.
They’re all rich and don’t seem to really care about him and only really throw cash around to impress him. He’s got issues and I worry without the kind of brotherly love and support we have in our friend group, he’ll turn to them and they’ll toss him aside because he isn’t a fun pet poor person anymore. He’s even admitted himself that he thinks one of them is actively trying to groom him.
Like I said, it’s a big mess. I’m just gonna have to watch what happens and hopefully if things go poorly for him, he’ll be willing to come back to us or find new people who really care about him.