Ask Lemmy

Ok I know the title is weirdly said but I will explain more here. I tried using reddit but all of the subs and topics I wanted to speak on were gated by Karma, so I searched reddit for no karma sub so I just posted on ask reddit,nostupid questions and I made one post on r/advice which I cross posted to relationship advice after which my account glitched. Turned out I had been shadow banned and I have no clue how. My theory is I posted to much and copy and pasting a post tripped the alarm but the post was a bit different on relationship advice and I did it once, I saw reddit from like youtube videos and tiktok and people cross post to subs all the time why is that an issue ?

But to get to the main ponint of this, why is reddit run the way it is ? In the sense why do they ask so much of their users hurting both the user expirience and the site's ability to grow. The Karma system forces you into a position where to get to the content you want you have to interact with and post content you don't care about.So you have a ton of disengaged user's just punching their time card to get to what they actually care about. Imagine if other social media sites did this, imagine if you wanted to listen to sabrina carpenter on spotify but to do that you had to listen to 100 hours of Conway Twitty, what sense does that make ?

Reddit's karma and age gate systems resemble a mobile game and while annoying when it's done there you understand why it's designed to get you to pay to skip it, but reddit doesn't let you pay to skip it at east not directly.

Every other social media site wants to get users the content they want as easy as possible. TikTok is the best example the reason it's popular is because it's the best at getting you what you want with as little work required on your part as possible. The for you page fetches you videos your interested in, if your a creator the format of the app increases your chance of being seen and going viral.

Reddit on the other hand leaves so much of the user experience up to weather or not your post on ask reddt go gets upvotes or if you happen to know if a good sub with a karma limit since subs do not disclose their karma limit

Again for the last time, why ? Even from a selfish business standpoint this seemingly makes no sense so what am I missing

It looks like they're speedrunning to the finish line to get things over with as quickly as possible.

Since nothing is going to stand in their way, how can we make sure they are held accountable for generations to come?

Maybe we can have a day of remembrance for the Palestinians.

I'm afraid that once Israel has completed their genocide, the media cycle and influencers will ensure its never spoken about again.

How do we keep it fresh in people's minds until the perpetrators and/or their offspring face justice?

I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

I'm big into blocking hostnames via DNS (specifically with Blocky). I'm having trouble finding Musk and Trump denylists specifically so thought I'd ask the community.

I honestly don't see how the average working class adult find that time. I feel like gaming is a luxury for rich/middle-class teens.

Original question by @Justathroughdaway@lemmy.world

I like to lean about words from around the world and use them in my speech. I have a particular love for British words. I just love words like spiv, nod, wasteman, barmy, slapper, bruv, shafted, nonce, junkie, bint, smackhead, slag, breve, chav, squiffy, slaphead, dosh, shafted

I think it’s a healthy thing to do to admit when your wrong as it places importance on truth rather than self image.

Some examples:

I thought pay-per-view was paper-view because you had to fill out a form to watch it.

This morning I insisted there was a noise outside to my partner and it was in fact the refrigerant in the fridge gurgling.

I thought the cat wanted to be pet— it did not.

I make recurring payments that require exchange. I'm absolutely not financially savvy. I'm good at managing my personal budget but when it comes to financial jargon and market know hows I'm a dummy.

I'm looking for some kind of tool that helps me monitor exchange rates and sends me alerts. I'm hoping to make the payments in as much of a favorable window as possible.

I tried installing Revolut but I'm not going to use it (I can only make the payments with Western Union) and I found all the data they requested just too much for nothing.

I hope you Lemmies can recommend a FOSS app for this? Or at least something privacy friendly? Remember I'm not using it to pay, just to monitor.

TIA

I heard the term information paralysis the other day and realized that it describes me perfectly . I get so overwhelmed with new information on something I might want to actually learn that I just stop trying to learn it. I'm pushing 50 I have no savings, live paycheck to paycheck and I see these young adults 30 years younger just making bank investing and AI day trading and would love to try it, I just can't start because I get overwhelmed on stuff I know nothing about.

My memory is shit I have to read stuff over and over ago before it clicks which builds the frustration

I loved computers as a kid in the late 80s unfortunately everyone in my life, parents teachers said nobody will ever make a living so I just lost touch with that part of me. I'm still a gamer but as far as operating computers well, webpages etc. or how any of it operates I don't have a clue. I didn't see a webpage until the day before I graduated highschool

Heresy, right? I've had a mechanical for the last couple of years, and while it's served me well enough, I still don't like the feel or clickety-clack compared to a membrane switch - and my current one is the Razer Blackwidow Stealth w/ rubber o-rings added to the base of each key, which I think is as non-clackety as a mechanical gets.

Anyway, the Blackwidow is starting to have issues - F5 key died months ago, and lately it's been doing this annoying thing where I press a key and it registers the downstroke, but not the release, of the Tab and D keys until I pull it from its USB port and reinsert. It's time.

...but the initial search for a replacement all I'm seeing are either mechanical or mimicking mechanical (like a membrane switch but with the big blocky keys that mechanicals use).

My favorite keyboard 'feel' 100% is an oldschool laptop style keyboard. Like the IBM T60 - flat, light to the touch, and no dead space in between the keys like you see in a lot of today's laptops (the 'island' style... not a fan).

I don't think my entire wish-list exists in a single product, but what I'm after is:

• That T60 style described above

• Programmable keys (remap / macros)

• Corded... unless cordless options have really improved in the last decade or so: I recall a noticeable delay, and constantly running out of battery.

• Extra keys specifically for binding macros like the Blackwidow

• Backlight. Low priority, and I don't give a shit about RGB (or aesthetics in general), but it is nice to be able to be able to see which key is which when the room is dark.

...is anything even kind-of like that on the market, or should I just shut up and get another mechanical?

I keep seeing comments about how Canada avoided a similar fate because of its strict use of paper ballots; the US must have changed its system to include these electronic and possibly not airgapped machines.

Original question by @ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee

Original question by @Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com

I could have titled this as just waste created by living daily, but wanted to focus it down a little more. I feel kind of like im the crazy one that sees this insane waste when eating at restaurants, wrappers, cups, drink carriers going right in the trash, billions per day. Its insanity if you think about it.

I've at least been never using cup lids or straws and never taking drink carriers when theyre offered (what a massive waste of cardboard!). Then most of the waste is at least paper from the bag and wrapper. Still not great. And yes, I know the solution would be "cook at home!" But that also wastes a lot of freshwater from dish washing, and sometimes it's just nice to eat somewhere else.

I wonder if this is just something you notice as you get older. Then again older peiple probably waste the most, but I'm just guessing.

I’ve been researching and saving for the Light Phone III for a while, but there’s just one thing that’s making me hesitant about getting it: music streaming. I have no problem with downloading all of my music, but that prevents me from discovering new songs that Spotify or YouTube Music or whatever recommends me. I feel like I’m going to miss it in situations I can’t have my laptop (like on long drives).

What do you miss most?

Everytime I see depictions of "normal" households in TV/Movies/ the house always look extra clean and their belongings are new.

And everytime I see depictions of poverty, its always a house that's filled with junk, computers are like a decade old, no food in fridge, either no car or car is barely functional.

Well, I know the media always exaggerates things, but if I had to use the media as a reference, I feel like my childhood has been closer to the poverty depiction and also life felt so "ghetto" for me (for lack of a better word). Most of the furnature was just donated by relatives or my parents picked them up from the sidewalk that somebody threw out. I had a very shitty laptop, I had no phone for a majority of highschool and therefore not have friends, house is so filled with junk and messy because frugal parents love hoarding things that they never use. Didn't even have access to a car (in a car-centric neighborhood btw) because my parents didn't have one until like I was in highschool, and even then it was like very shitty and the AC didn't work (that car has since been replaced).

Also my parents never got me any toys or entertainment, I only had a shitty laptop to pirate everything. I have never, and still have not, ever watched a movie in a movie theater (which I heard was supposedly something everyone have experienced?) like every movie I've ever watched (pirated) is either from the 15.6 inch 1336 x 768 resolution display on the laptop that I had, or from the phones that I later got varying from the 1080 x 720 resolution 5 inch display, to the later phone with 5.5 inch 1920 x 1080 display.

My life is like 70% accurate to the sterotypical depiction of poverty except the empty fridge part, so I guess I lucked out on that.

I'm assuming this is just the standard working class childhood experience?

Original question and photo by @Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com

Or I suppose you could be some kind of crazy person who switches it up per game.

I assume you three-monitor people use the middle one, but I'd be interested to hear if that's the case?

A few days ago I made an account and posted a few joke/meme comments that got a lot of engagement. Unfortunately, the replies seemed to be mostly personal attacks on me disguised as jokes, when all I was doing was trying to be funny in a harmless way. I deleted that account and this one will be temporary. You people complain about this site lacking content compared to Reddit, about communities with only one person posting regularly and there not being enough niches, but how do you expect any growth to occur if the first thing someone experiences when posting on a new account is getting dogpiled on?

It wasn't my first account either, it was my latest attempt to reenter the fray after feeling like I was becoming the butt of the joke on an account before that, just engaging with the community in the way that I like to. It almost felt like on both accounts my comments were being deliberately mass upvoted just as a setup to be humiliated. Some people have horrific lives IRL that would make any reasonable person want to kill themselves, and are stuck in those soul crushing situations for years and years with no way out. It would be nice to find a place to joke around and feel even just the simulated warmth of human connection without the same kind of nastiness I encounter in everyday life, so I'll keep looking.

You say Reddit is toxic? I deleted my account there a long time ago, but my experience was that Reddit is like a big metropolis and Lemmy is more like a small town. Yes Reddit has jerks, but they don't tag you with their third party app and follow you around, giving you the illusion of being accepted with (probably fake) upvotes while subtly mocking everything you say and passing it off as a joke. You can blend with the crowd there and not become a target. I really, really don't want to give Reddit and OpenAI my data, but if I want a real social media experience that isn't being gatekept by assholes who enjoy bullying on the internet because they're too scared to do it IRL I may have to.

I hope Lemmy can fix itself, but my experience with small towns in real life is that those "big" (small) fish in their small, stagnant pond don't want anything to ever change because the status quo suits their mediocrity and reinforces their egos. Which would be an ironic fate for the supposed "future" of social media. Almost none of the content, all of the toxicity. Why is it so hard for people to be respectful of others?

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Edit: After consideration, I've decided to provide the context. I really don't want to but here, username was TheRealSlimShady: https://lemmy.world/post/31011364

Basically I used a Trump gif ironically as a response, someone zoomed in on his mouth and called me gay for it looking like a loose butthole. The original comment was the classic green text "fake and gay", and they turned the joke on me and made it personal.

Seems like they have the possibillity of getting women who use them in trouble if it collects data and tracks them or something