Call me crazy, but I a) think the fediverse probably doesn't have more 'toxic content', harmful and violent content, and child sexual abuse material then other platforms like X, Facebook, Meta, YouTube etc, and b) actively like the fediverse because of that.
But after a few hours carefully drafting and sourcing an edit to make it clear that no, the fediverse isn't unusual in social media circles for having a lot of toxic content, I realised that the entire 'fediverse bad' section was added by 1 editor in 2 days. And the editor has made an awful lot of edits on pages all themed around porn (hundreds of edits on the pages of porn stars), suicide, mass killings, mass shootings, Jews, torture techniques, conspiracy theories, child abuse, various forms of sexual and other exploitation, 'zoosadism', and then pages with titles like 'bad monkey' that seemed reasonably innocent until I actually clicked on them to see what they were and, well.
I decided to stop using the internet for a while.
I've learned my lesson trying to change Wikipedia edits written by people like that - they tend to have a tight social circle of people who can make the internet a very unpleasant place for anyone suggesting maybe claims like 'an opinion poll indicated that most people in Britain would prefer to live next to a sewage plant than a Muslim' should maybe not on Wikipedia on the thin evidence of paywalled link from a Geocities page written by, apparently, a putrid cesspit personified.
I thought I'd learned my lesson about trusting Wikipedia.
It just makes me so angry that most people's main source of information on the fediverse contains a massive chunk written solely by a guy who spends most of his time making minor grammar edits to pages about school shootings, collections of pages about black people who were sexually assaulted and murdered, etc, and that these people control the narrative on Wikipedia by means of ensuring any polite critics' are overcome with the urge to spend the rest of the day showering and disinfecting everything.
This deal with Charlie Kirk has people on edge, although so too did Luigi, and the Presidential election, and so on.
Yes here's an example from today - I just sorted News posts by active and scrolled down to find a post with >100 comments on it:
6 hours ago one person said (referring to USA Vice President JD Vance, the subject of the OP)
And someone replied:
Neither received any downvotes, and the latter reply received more upvotes than the one I quoted above it. Am I wrong to interpret that the reply is suggesting that it is unfortunate that the guy has not yet been shot in the throat? Involuntarily in case I need to add that, i.e. not euthanasia but non-consensual killing aka what most centrists would call "murder" (although I am not wanting to debate whether other definitions such as "justice" might also or even rather apply).
Of course it could be a "joke", though isn't the recipient just as much the party who determines what a message means as the sender? If it is a "joke" (possibly as in "haha jk except not really"), then there are an enormous number of such, and have been for quite awhile now - especially "joking" about how Luigi needs to save people, joking about the fact that a second amendment exists in the USA, joking about how people can conveniently die in non-murderous ways e.g. their liver goes out (see the posts about the recent Steve Bannon announcement), and just overall about how death is a good thing so long as it happens to "them", the "other side" (again, I'm not wanting to get into whether it's deserved, just stating here that such is being discussed, since these topics relate to how centrists from Reddit would view the Lemmy platform).
These kinds of things are likely to get Lemmy banned from the USA as the authoritarian program proceeds forward, but that is a separate issue from centrists (including those who think of themselves as leftists, not realizing what that means when recalibrated on a more global scale) and most especially conservatives (e.g. in the USA, that are currently using Reddit) feeling welcomed here.
So anyway that was the first such post that I examined. The next post has even more egregious and obvious comments, such as this one, from a whole week ago so at this point seems extremely unlikely to be removed by a mod and even if it were, it has already long served its purpose:
(And then s whole discussion ensues about just how okay it is to kill people. Other more... "circumspect" comments to that same OP include such things as "The 2nd amendment works for all sides."
So far this is 100% of the first 2 posts I have examined, so let's move on to #3. Yup, I immediately spot this really cute picture of a cat depicting someone being beheaded, in response to the statement "the aristocrats!", itself in response to something deleted by a Moderator. So this makes 3 of 3 posts, still a perfect 100%. And I did not have to reference anything from any tankie instances (where the frequency is surely much higher), or anything removed or likely at this time to ever be removed by a moderator, one even having been from a week ago. Seriously, calling for shooting/beheading/otherwise killing "the enemy" are extremely common here. You have undergone extreme efforts to avoid seeing it, I understand, but it does exist, and new people visiting here can notice it, not knowing to expect this level of vitriol. Tbf even Reddit these days is exploding with calls to Luigi people, they just work much harder to repress it - which I am not saying is a good outcome, my only interest here lies in explaining what is, not what should be.
Filtered by Top Day on slrpnk
All of those posts are mere hours old, and shown from an instance that has defederated from Hexbear and Lemmygrad. And even there, I definitely see calls for outright murder, such as this one, although here it was fortunately caught and removed by a mod:
That post was of very limited / niche interest though, with only 17 comments total. If you want to disprove my wording that "all" posts have such calls, you can easily find several posts with 0 comments, which obviously disproves my wording choice:-). And likewise those with 1-20 comments - among a community that often has hundreds (e.g. this post from just 10 days ago has >1500) - is low-interest.
This is why I avoided using "Hot", especially within a 1-day time period. But following your lead, I sorted by "Top Week", and was going to ignore anything from just the last single day, although all of the top 4 posts are older than that so that makes things easier. The top one could be a bit of a bad example but like in response to "Shoot 'em. Problem gone!" has "it is also a way to end conservatism… just sayin…" - but this one is much more likely to TRULY be a joke, in the spirit of that whole post in general, or at worst a venting of steam (although further down people are talking about "Solutions" that involve "electrowhatever or guns, which seem like the two bodies of knowledge a solution would come from." - note that guns are very ineffective tools to affect non-violent means of resistance or to destroy property, and chiefly are used to KILL PEOPLE aka "murder"). Another one there is literally "shoot the fascists", another is "if you need some tips on making firearms out of things easily lifted from home depo, I’m your man", others stop short of advocating outright murder but still do things inching towards that end such as "When do we start rounding up all the Faux execs and the on-air talent ... When do we start doxxing those that support Faux by watching Faux, and start getting THEM fired?" - granted it starts as "fired" but the reply immediately carries it forward with "And then those high profile people would start losing their homes and lives. I would celebrate that as justice served." The latter is admittedly a stretch to say advocation for actual murder directly, but it is like one millimeter indirectly removed from it so as part of this whole batch I will include it here.
So using your procedure, though skipping over posts that are less than or only a day old, I have added one more to the pile. We are at 4 out of 4 so far, or 4 out of 5 if you want to count the Hawaii one as a false positive. Moving on to the next one I see like "I would straight up start busting windows out of any vehicle with trump stickers." - which tbf is not murder, just terrorism/violence. So yeah, this one has no calls to murder that I saw. So this is 4 out of 6.
Next is this one - and I am getting tired so going to rush through this one. There are a BUNCH of comments describing guns like "He is saying arm yourself while it is legal, so you have weapons for when you need them to fight off bad people in designer uniforms… Roughly translated.", "2A for all. Time to resist in other ways". Again these are describing guns not infrastructure-destroying or people-convincing tools, but tools to involuntarily kill people aka murder. So this is 5 out of 7.
Certainly not 100% though, if that is your mark. Which would be fair on your part b/c my literal wording called for it by stating "it seems virtually impossible these days to read the comments in even a news post that does not include at least one call for murder of someone or another.", and my hyperbolic exaggeration is clearly false (in my defense I did not mean per-post but rather like "all the content that I read in a day will include at least one call for murder", but I did not clarify so that's on me). Again, any post that has 0 comments would already have disproven it, as too is any comment with very small number of comments or interest, etc. However, it still seems true that well over half of all the current most active or top weekly posts from News@lemmy.world contain calls for using weapons to kill people or the lesser version of at least celebrating death of "the enemy" however it may happen, even if depicted in cutesy pictures of cats frolicking. Separating aside any judgement of good or bad or neutral or "it's waaaaay more complicated than any of that", it is going to be a turn-off for some people.
Also I looked at meme communities again for Top Weekly and of course the top several posts are all about politics and news, though I am too tired to go through hundreds more comments looking for calls to murder in them as well, even in "memes" communities. It seems likely that they are there somewhere though? Also, we didn't even begin to go looking into the whole Gaza situation... or Ukraine/Russia, or any of the myriad others. I am confident that if you look, you will easily find it. Now in brand-new posts and not in the Hawaii one for sure, but such calls do appear here and there, around the wide Threadiverse.
Man, I really disagree with your stance but you're arguing in an annoyingly reasonable, balanced manner and doing legwork to produce evidence for your claim that invites people to re-evaluate their long held stance.
It's annoying because I like my long held stances. They're comfortable.
I'm a big fan of dark humour (as long as it isn't punching down and is kept in pretty well defined areas where it's unlikely to upset reasonable people who happen to be on the wrong side) and have read all your posts thinking 'sorry but if people can't joke, or express their frustration and fear by pretending they aren't powerless, that sounds like a recipe for frustration and repression', which is reasonable because all the examples are on my socio-political side.
And you've made it kinda obvious, without being aggressive, that if I only think it's ok because I happen to agree with them... It's maybe time to re-evaluate my threshold for when joking and letting off steam online crosses the threshold that I don't want to be part of that community any more.
So, full marks on 'how to convince people to change beliefs that they have an emotional connection to', because I've seen the argument a few times and it's never been remotely effective.
And I guess, the world needs less violent jokes and personal vendettas in general, even though it's clearly one side causing the actual problems. I can't keep criticising them without being critical of the people in my own spaces doing the same.
(Really sorry, just a few marks deducted because I do not feel overjoyed or enlightened. I'm mildly annoyed that I've been in the wrong and have to change, for no personal gain, and it'll take the fun out of a lot of the internet. I suspect at some point I'll realise I'm much happier without reading violent stuff etc, and be much more grateful. But for now it feels a little like finding out that one of my new hobbies is problematic)
Thank you for your kind words. Most people who felt that way would either just be angry, or at best uncertain so would not share, so thank you for your bravery to open up and be vulnerable.
I also am a big fan of dark humor, especially comedians that do it, then hearing the audience, pause to explain a little bit - the best ones, the absolute masters of their craft, are indeed super gentle about it.
But we are just people, trying to get by in life. I will leave the actual "judgement" as to whether it's good or bad to you (while acknowledging my own bias in that I think it's bad, for numerous reasons but one is the slippery slope where it pulls someone down the pathway ever further along, bc if one step is fine then why not two, and if two is fine then okay what about three, and so on), but in any case I think that either way the situation is compounded by it being "unexamined". Whatever our beliefs are, they are best if they are TRULY ours, rather than just borrowed from others without a thought as to whether they fit our actual selves. Crowd-thinking is not any kind of thinking at all.
We have such PRIVILEGES, and we don't like to think about that. Most of my closer friends online tend to be older gay men or trans people, who don't like to think about how privileged they are to have experienced trauma that a traditional neurotypical person has not (mainly bc feeling suicidal, they would think along the lines of privileged="good", which it is not - what they experienced is not "good", but it does make them "privileged" in terms of having traumatic experiences that allows them to understand things that others outright refuse to or perhaps worse are flat incapable of doing). Access to education is one such privilege. Ability to spend time reading is another. In contrast, a single parent of multiple kids in the USA hustling by working 2-3 jobs does not have such luxuries, and is all the more vulnerable to disinformation as a result.
And on the Fediverse, we spend a great deal of time blocking things that we do not like. We who enjoy fiddling with config files and trying out how they might change the outcome of a process - we are if not quite rare in the population then at least uncommon. Which is fine, but then we cannot delude ourselves - at least, not if we wish to remain honest with ourselves - that the stuff that we spent such enormous amounts of time blocking does not in fact exist.
People advocate for murder here constantly. Some might even mean it. If Russia or China or North Korea were not here trying to push agitation, then they are missing a great opportunity, imho - although fortunately (for them) useful believers will do that work for them, having already been converted on more popular platforms.
And then, as you said, there's people just joking around. Which we DESPISE when we hear the right-wing people do it in our direction, yet we do it to them in turn. It's natural though, and therefore lazy, and easy to fall into, without ever considering any other alternatives.
Whichever way you end up on this topic, kudos for taking the time to examine it and decide what you actually want here.