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So I'm dabbling around in selfhosting, and now am just running on a shitty old laptop. There for I'm looking for the most resource friendly Linux when it comes to idle'ing and doing nothing. As most my vm's are on idle and are only used periodically. But it needs to also be perfomant. So just like debian... Yet...

I know Ubuntu, debian, they are pretty easy to use. Debian is lightweight, yet it's still heavy. As I tend do make a vm for every new application to manage it easy. Home assistant, adguardhome, nextcloud, etc... Their Ubuntu's and debian's on idle are resource intensive against what I recently found... Turnkey Linux.

Turnkeylinux is pretty much debian but stripped down. It uses less then half of what debian needs in resources, and on idle uses litterly a few mb's of ram. Yet there is one important thing that simply does not want to work on it, and it's Unbound. So as I want to get all my vm's on the same distro, that option goes out the window.

So my question is, if not debian, what are other maybe more lightweight Linux's that are recommended? Or should I just stick with debian as comments are full of it. Or do you know any other gems like turnkey? (centOS and other old, non alive Linux are not a option either.)