I selfhost for 2+ years and it is both a job and really cool. We‘re not at real consumer self hosting yet imo but we‘re close.
My setup is around 50 docker containers on two servers. Important (offline) and security conscious stuff at home and fediverse services on a vps.
I‘m currently working on object storage which is a lot of work but its fun and maybe will come in handy too.
You can check my setup on github. Feel free to hit me up if you want to do it too or wanna discuss stuff. You can also see my matrix in my bio.
Have a good one.