43 Male. I want kids but I am currently financially unsuitable. At some point though, I plan on it. I can appreciate being single and childless. I have done quite a bit of stuff, but, I have the urge to raise kids and have a family. It feels like there is a part of me not quite there.
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Been trying for 6 years. Not desperately, but it would be nice. Thinking about getting chickens.
If youβre doing it for companionship, get male chicks so they donβt put them in the macerator.
Unfortunately, our local council doesn't allow having roosters because of the crowing. Hens only.
47W. Never wanted kids. I don't miss it. I'm happy when I see my friends' kids but I really don't want one.
I have time for me and I couldn't afford raising one but again, I've never ever felt the need to be a parent.
No one has ever pressured me into having children. People knew I wasn't the the type even when I was a kid. They never questioned my choice not to get married either. So no peer pressure.
You're correct. I didn't mean that 40 was itself too old, only that there is a certain point at which they'll be too old for biological kids. No one is ever too old to find a new relationship though.
I'm in my 40s and I feel great being able to spend my time the way I want, and not have to worry about providing for kids. I've had time to develop new hobbies, read books, play games, and have a generally carefree lifestyle. I have friends who had kids, and kids have basically become their whole life. It's just not for me.
Ask again in a decade and some. Me and my gf really do not want kids
Hopefully no different from life now.