Self hosted relays do exist, they're just not open to the public (mostly used for archival / development currently)
Blorgbob exists, and people use their own blorgbobs, but also people are not allowed to use blorgbobs, and they are only in archives or experimental development.
... Please tell me you understand you have just said completely self contradictory nonsense.
Leaving the actual truth or falsity of your claim aside... what you have just stated is a logically impossible paradox.
... As soon as you find documents from the founding fathers addressing best practices and policies regarding cybersecurity, let me know.