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Wife is constantly negative (alien.top)

submitted 11 months ago by BigBadIrishSir@alien.top to c/entrepreneur@indiehackers.space

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So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she's being "pragmatic" but it's tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I've ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I'm well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?

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[–] faygetard@alien.top 1 points 11 months ago

I had the same issue with my wife until she tried to start her own thing. We fought like cats and dogs because of how much of a wet blanket she was even with my successes. The fights have completely gone away after she tried starting up her own thing and saw how me being positive help so much and when somebody comes in like a stick in the mud that you anticipated being helpful and giving you at least positive advice wasn't. I don't hang it over her head, but she and I both know that her negativity took the wind out of my sails. And it's a shitty way for a partner to be.

I don't know if it's possible but tell her to start up her own thing separately from you. You won't even need to criticize her all you need to do is be supportive like you want somebody to be with you. You don't know until you know, you know