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Wife is constantly negative (alien.top)

submitted 1 year ago by BigBadIrishSir@alien.top to c/entrepreneur@indiehackers.space

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So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she's being "pragmatic" but it's tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I've ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I'm well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?

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[–] CompetitiveDingo8135@alien.top 1 points 1 year ago

Im reading this book called awaken the gaint within from tony robbins. In the start it talks about what we associate pain and pleasure to is ultimately the driving force for all our decisions and actions.

Now as an individual (you) who aspires to have dreams and goals ( as you associate pleasure to the outcome of success with some reference points, maybe someone else who has been successful) and pain ( wife referring to negative outcomes and fear of losing it all and the worst scenario ) , it your choice on how to go about it.

Maybe imagine the pain of not taking action and in 10-15 years when you look back, the regret you’ll have for not taking action regardless of success will be far greater than trying and failing.

Its all about what you associate the pain and pleasure to. You know we all hear that someone who has been at true rock bottom truly recognizes what pain feels like and are usually the most successful is because they have neurologically associate extreme pain to being at rock bottom and take on multiple failures in the path to success. Some not all kids whose parents have given them comfortable life dont end up doing so great, is because they cant associate pain with not taking action, as they are already comfortable with where they are.

But some realize this and aspire and aim high and associate pain with where they are , and that is their driving factor.

So wife isnt the problem, she is just naive and is only associating pain to financial loss, but its your choice, be an average and conformable or fear the opportunity cost you’ll end up paying for not taking action!

Good luck with your endeavours!