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Wife is constantly negative (alien.top)

submitted 1 year ago by BigBadIrishSir@alien.top to c/entrepreneur@indiehackers.space

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So like the title says, I have creative ideas and always try to include my wife in discussions, but all she ever brings to the table is problems and negativity when we discuss things. She thinks she's being "pragmatic" but it's tremendously disheartening and the problems she imagines are always the absolute worst of the worst case scenarios. Everything I've ever read or watched when it comes to starting businesses is, just start and figure out the problems later. I'm well aware of the potential for difficulties in any endeavor, but tend to believe in myself and my ability to adapt and overcome. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you find middle ground, if at all?

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[–] lowvitamind@alien.top 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Simple fix - stop telling her. Most people (not ur wife, it's common) who are critical will only ever sit in their recliner, bag of Cheetos in their hand criticising any business u give them. Who cares, ur the one with the heart for it, go make it happen n let em slouch back n watch. Seriously it's the cheapest thing to do, state all the problems with the business. That's the point of the business, it has to have problems that you can overcome otherwise it'd be common place!

[–] nola-rye@alien.top 1 points 1 year ago

I think this is a bullshit answer. OP might be coming up with some really hair-brain shit.

He does not state any plans and she is not here to speak.

What if she doesn’t like his ideas bc they’re garbage.

Never devalue the opinion of people who are willing to tell you what they think.

Otherwise, you’re asking to be surrounded by ass kissing yes-men.

I get in similar conversations with my sibling often in family business.

They built the business.

I’m just the worker, but when they ask me what I think, I don’t paint sunshine and roses pictures and piss down their leg and tell them its raining like everyone else apparently does.

I’d rather have their respect and be an asset to their business, rarher than to be agreeable for agreeability’s sake.