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When I first joined this community I saw it as a respite from reddit where I was free to chill with people without being constantly expected to debate or defend arguments or anything. Just a forum where people are nice.

Lately though it seems every active comment section is filled to the brim with, to be frank, obnoxious people who want nothing more than to fight with you about everything you say. I think they're known as "debate bros."

I'm not saying debate shouldn't be happening but to be honest it's disappointing seeing it be the only thing occurring. I've tried contributing in other fashions but have been met multiple times with people trying to start arguments with me about things or get me to defend "points" that I didn't make. This in particular has been very annoying. I've reported every instance of this due to it not contributing but I feel as if that's not helping.

I like talking to people I disagree with. I like conversing with differing opinions. But I feel alone in that this isn't the only thing I want to do on a forum.

Again, I'm not trying to definitively say we shouldn't debate at all, but just pointing out how prevalent it seems to be. Id like to just converse with people without being expected to make and defend points. I feel like that's a major thing we should've left on Reddit.

If people want to debate then they can do that. I just dislike that it appears to become the base-level expectation for the instance.

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[–] Lionir@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't think this is an appropriate reply right now considering they are already complaining about having to argue about it.

[–] Silverseren@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's just a funny situation where they are the terrible person complaining about others calling them out on the terrible things they say on the Fediverse.

It has nothing to do with toxicity at all, but just others holding them accountable.

[–] bermuda@beehaw.org 0 points 1 year ago

You can hold others accountable without resorting to calling them a terrible person.