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How do you date? (beehaw.org)
submitted 7 months ago by Gaywallet@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org
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Recently had a conversation with a good friend about dating, and it had me curious about how everyone on Beehaw approaches dating. Tell me a bit about how you date! Here's a few prompts/thoughts I'm curious about:

  • How long does it take for you to know if you're attracted to someone (sexually, romantically, emotionally, shared interests, etc)?
  • What do you like to do when you date and does it change depending on how many dates you've been on or how well you know the person?
  • Once you start dating someone, how long does it take you to understand whether you want to date the person long term or whether it's not going to work out?
  • Do you only date people you meet in real life or do you use dating apps? How do you approach going from stranger to dating them?
  • What's most important in deciding whether you want to date someone? Do they need to have an interest in activities you enjoy, shared values, emotional intelligence, a certain kind of humor, or something else?
  • Is there something you don't understand about dating and want to share your frustration?
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[โ€“] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Hope youโ€™ll be more lucky in finding your half than me ๐Ÿ˜

I'm poly and have a few partners. Dating is a regular part of my social life. I don't like to think in terms of 'other half' because it's a rather monogamous framework but more importantly because it implies you can't be whole without someone else which is a sign of enmeshment.

But I do very much think everyone deserves someone who is excited to build something cooperatively with them, who's passionate about spending time with them and who is supportive and compassionate and helps them grow. And I hope you find that person or those people in your life, whether it's through friendship or dating or some combination of both.

[โ€“] petrescatraian@libranet.de 2 points 7 months ago

@Gaywallet oh, I see. Thank you! ๐Ÿ˜