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Everywhere you browse, people have such strong opinions about everything and are so toxic or extremely negative. You start playing a game, want to check the forums or something and most of the posts are people being mean to each other. You open social media to keep in touch with people that you'd like to maintain a certain level of contact and there's always some people that are always complaining about every single thing.

I see myself more and more closing myself into a bubble which makes me appreciate Beehaw much more. I know I am guilty of being taken away by the toxicity and sometimes replying things I wouldn't be proud of but since I joined Beehaw I see myself policing myself more and more focused on being better.

Just a quick rant, I currently started playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I am honestly pissed off on the fact people can't give feedback without being rude or "gamers" just shitting on developers because they are stans of another game. I wanted to be active on the forum and comment on bugs and such because I want the game to be better but it is so depressing reading people being awful so often.

Why are we so shitty to each other? I'm so tired.

Edit: Pardon me if I used weird terms or grammar errors, english isn't my first language

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[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 19 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Why are we so shitty to each other?

Outside of the internet, I ask this question.

It's bizarre to me how billionaires don't how to else to use their money other than engaging in a space race. It's mind-boggling that people get into relationships only to beat and kill each the person closest to them. It's discombobulating how a society largely directed by the whims of men rejects the anguished, depressed cries of other men before they kill themselves. It's morbidly fascinating that a homeless epidemic is unfolding in developed nation and the response is to...withhold resources from them, destroy what little they have, and essentially do nothing to address their problems.

Why are we so shitty to each other indeed.

[–] BitOneZero@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Outside of the internet, I ask this question.

I find people think the Internet and the "real world" are two different things. I don't find this to be true, and I've seen people I know well entirely change their personality after hours of being angry just because a telephone call rings and they are practiced at changing for it. Similarly, I witness people who change while driving an automobile compared to their normal domestic behavior. It's all part of the same person and acting like it isn't real is denial of a lot of human history of other media.

All your points about homeless and and male identity crisis with mental health I find are true. And we clearly have the resources and information systems of connecting real people to real problems, one on one. But there hasn't really been a social movement of the Internet to make friends and use real identities - even when social media often started that way with local area-code BBS systems and users groups... and even LAN gaming.

We need true social leaders who cross national boundaries and say the kind of things that were said during civil rights movements. Someone could start with doing a world-wide grieving over the pandemic deaths, we weren't allowed to visit the people who died at the hospital or in quarantine at home. It seems like an obvious social positive to have a funeral, every society has a funeral, why not a world wide one for a world-wide pandemic? But I keep watching as nobody organizes it.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 3 points 1 year ago

Why are we so shitty to each other indeed.

For whatever reason, people like to be better than others. It's something I've never understood and I always try my best to be humble because of it and don't really get off on being competitive like a lot of people do.

[–] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Well but we as a community need to not be horrified by it and be helpful. And a lot of people are ready to help, but aren't asked, or overestimate their ability to. And politics isn't all of life, either!

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