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Everywhere you browse, people have such strong opinions about everything and are so toxic or extremely negative. You start playing a game, want to check the forums or something and most of the posts are people being mean to each other. You open social media to keep in touch with people that you'd like to maintain a certain level of contact and there's always some people that are always complaining about every single thing.

I see myself more and more closing myself into a bubble which makes me appreciate Beehaw much more. I know I am guilty of being taken away by the toxicity and sometimes replying things I wouldn't be proud of but since I joined Beehaw I see myself policing myself more and more focused on being better.

Just a quick rant, I currently started playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I am honestly pissed off on the fact people can't give feedback without being rude or "gamers" just shitting on developers because they are stans of another game. I wanted to be active on the forum and comment on bugs and such because I want the game to be better but it is so depressing reading people being awful so often.

Why are we so shitty to each other? I'm so tired.

Edit: Pardon me if I used weird terms or grammar errors, english isn't my first language

Edit2: removed specifics

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[–] daredevil@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

A lot of social engagement through social media is driven by impressions such as up votes, favorites, likes, etc. Unfortunately, an easy way to promote engagement and such lies in rage bait. This is likely due to the visceral emotional response generated by rage baiting. I would also extend this issue to how ubiquitous instant gratification is to the internet and social media. People tend to acquire clout through reacting to something quickly, which isn't always well-thought out. Add in the notion of mob mentality, and you have a recipe for the rapid exponential propagation of negative words, thoughts, and emotions. People also tend to not have productive ways of channeling their frustrations and issues, so they often see other entities on the Internet as just a name, sometimes less than that.

There's also a heavy amount of tribalism across a variety of domains which allows one to take refuge from this rage baiting by finding other like-minded individuals to identify with. In some cases, the stress of everyday life or what have you removes a sense of agency or power in one's life and sometimes people cope with this by developing a sense of superiority through whichever group or ideal that they identify with. This cycle repeats itself until there is a constant battle between any given groups where people attempt to elevate their self-worth by putting those that they dont agree with down, while emphasizing the superiority of their own ideal, IMO. I could be totally wrong ofc. I'm hardly perfect.

It's been a pretty exhausting experience. I'm tired of it as well; my fondness for engaging with people has diminished greatly.

[–] Templa@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yes, exactly this. Specially on determined platforms you are rewarded for engagement, no matter what kind it is so it appears that people are more and more baiting for reactions. It is awful.

Edit: typo

[–] daredevil@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah, several platforms heavily incentivize and reward engagement. Unfortunately, as threads, videos, platforms, etc. get bigger, they make it easier to rage bait. It's a pretty unhealthy behavior, imo. However, that doesn't necessarily mean everyone who believes in an idea, belongs on a platform, negatively posts, etc. is intentionally acting out of malice. Some are doing so without awareness. Others on a given platform may also be genuinely acting in good faith. It's a pretty complex topic, with a lot of things to consider. That said, becoming aware of this cycle is important, IMO. It may also prove beneficial to find ways to distance one's self from this cycle of negativity either by diverting it from your attention via breaks, or steadily replacing unhealthy behaviors over time. I hope you find something that helps yourself, OP.