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Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.

I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?

Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).

Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.

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[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 35 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

What app do you use? Last I checked, pronouns are part of display names for Hexbear users. You shouldn’t have to check profiles. That’s the whole point of them being included in display names. Your app would ideally just respect display names and it would require no extra effort on your part to gender people correctly.

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 13 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Jerboa, made an edit on the post asking for a free Lemmy mobile recommendation that has the feature.

[–] Inui@hexbear.net 8 points 3 weeks ago

Use Thunder. Its on Fdroid. Or you can grab it straight from Github with Obtanium.

[–] OmanMkII@aussie.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm on jerbora as well and can see the previous person's pronouns, but it could be an instance specific thing.

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I checked on my desktop, they were appearing on there ??

[–] Edie@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Jerboa is honoring the newlines in my display name (whereas web browsers will just substitute newlines for spaces). I just didn't think about the fact that it would only display one line.

This is what it should look like:

∞🏳️‍⚧️Edie 
[it/its,
 she/her,
 fae/faer,
 love/loves,
 ze/hir,
 des/pair,
 null/void,
 none/use name,
 kitty]
[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 4 points 3 weeks ago

Fact checking and technical diagnosis, I appreciate your contributions to the platform.

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works -3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Your app would ideally just respect display names and it would require no extra effort on your part to gender people correctly.

Even if pronouns aren't displayed, it takes even less effort to use neutral pronouns for everyone unless you know otherwise.

[–] Pandantic@midwest.social 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

And how does one do that while meming “the man, the myth, the legend”?

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

They can find another line, or skip trying to be funny altogether if the only way they can think of is gendered and they can't be arsed to check the gender of the person they're talking to.

And lets be honest - it wasn't that good a joke.

Either way, it really isn't fucking difficult, and is definitely easier than whatever the fuck this mess is.

[–] ToucheGoodSir@lemy.lol 4 points 3 weeks ago

Mess seems like a strong word to use. So, to clarify, you're saying that you are of the opinion that unless you're sure of an internet strangers pronouns, you shouldn't use gender specific cultural references to refer to them when making a joke?