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[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not so much advice as a selfish request: please try to stay with us. I mean that both figuratively (i.e. mentally checking out and becoming hollow) and literally (i.e. existing in this world). It's a selfish request because though I'm not even American, I am one of the countless people who are scared shitless today. I don't know how we will make it through this, but I know I can't do this on my own.

If you're here, scared with me, then I am not alone, and neither are you. It's a bit trite, but it helps me somewhat.

[–] suspended@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It’s a bit trite

I don't believe this is trite at all. This is how we do it. We do it together.

You're right, and thanks for checking me on that. On reflection, I said it was trite because I think I felt uncomfortable with the level of vulnerability I was feeling when writing that comment, so I tacked that onto the end. The vulnerability came from a place of "who am I to give advice when the advice I'm giving myself hardly feels sufficient, because my inner monologue is basically a screaming possum most of the time". Lots of people are feeling similar, which is why I made my original comment in the first place.

I think a lot of us are struggling under the pressure about not knowing how to cope with this dreadful situation, and for me, that meant feeling like I needed to come up with the perfect words that would be useful for everyone who is struggling. It is sufficient for me to go "for me, this is a useful way to think (and other people may do also)". It's silly for me to dismiss myself as trite just because I feel like I am only valid if I have a Solution. As you highlight, this is a collaborative process, so muddling along together is how this goes.