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What's the worst present you've ever received? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by Merlu@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

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[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago (2 children)

They got me something I had no interest in and were upset I wasn't using it. Ever hear the phrase "it's the thought that counts"? It demonstrated zero thought into what I would actually be interested in.

It's like buying a teen a set of knitting needles and being surprised that they didn't start knitting with them.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 13 points 3 days ago

Well it might have been a thought about what would be good for you (to their belief), but to be upset that it didn't just make you want to use seems a but naïve.

[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Ever hear the saying "Don't look a gift horse into the mouth"?

It demonstrated plenty of thought.

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca -2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I know nothing about horses. I won't look this gift horse in the mouth because I don't know know what I'm looking at, but I'm also not going to be thrilled with the horse you've gifted me that I have no idea what to do with.

[–] snugglesthefalse@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's a common saying, it's not a literal thing

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

Thanks tips.

My point is if someone did show up at your house gifting you a horse for Christmas it would be appropriate for you to respond with "what am I supposed to do with this?" And someone telling you "it's a nice gift, be thankful for it" would be an unreasonable response.

It's an example that not every gift is thoughtful just because it's a gift.