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You're making a ton of straw-man arguments.
You don't have to be the best. You do have to be good enough to get scouted by a professional team if your goal is to play professionally. I never at any point said that it wasn't worth playing if you couldn't be the best or do it professionally. I spend a lot of time shooting competitively; it's likely that I will never make Master or Grandmaster in anything, and as a result I'm never going to be sponsored or be able to earn a living at it. (...Not that the money is very good anyways.) So what? I still have fun.
In sports, playing professionally is a meritocracy. Socioeconomic class matters insofar as having more wealth and privilege means that you'll have access to better training prior to becoming a professional. But the child in question already has access to training, through a parent that plays professionally. But that's all the farther that socioeconomic class gets you in sports. People from poorer backgrounds often get to go far in sports, if they have the skill.
Yes, OP could be wrong. On the other hand, OP is claiming to be a professional in the field, and is therefore more likely to have an informed opinion.
Success is a combination of directed effort, an inherent capability; it's not one or the other. If you lack certain inherent capabilities, then all the directed effort in the world won't get you where you want to be. You can have all the gifts to achieve greatness in a given field, and yet fail completely if you don't carefully direct your ability in that area.
See above. The kid already has access to top-tier training, and is not making the grade necessary to perform at a professional level. Ergo, the part that is lacking is capability. ...Which is why my anecdote is relevant; it's not my unwillingness to work my ass off that has limited my power lifting aspirations, it's my physical capabilities. (And yes, I really did work at power lifting. And will again once my shoulder finished healing, even though I'm never going to be competitive at any level.)
Of course the kid isn't going to be at the same level forever. But he's not on track to be at a level where he's capable of playing professionally. A 16yo that's capable of going pro--esp. when they have access to high-level training--would be expected to be performing at a certain level. According to OP, he isn't. The probability is that, while he will continue to improve (up until age catches up with him), he is not going to be at a professional level in time to make a career of it.
You're drawing a false dichotomy between being honest/realistic with your children, and having a relationship with them. I'm gathering, from what you're saying, that you don't believe that the parent should give their child a realistic assessment of their performance, and should simply be encouraging; it that correct? It seem like you believe that putting all of your effort into a goal, and failing to achieve that goal would not cause deep bitterness on its own; am I reading that correctly?
"It’s my opinion that it’s better for parents to encourage their children in their dreams [...]" I partially disagree. I think that parents need to encourage children to set realistic goals in life, and goals that can be stretch goals. Maybe that looks like going to school to become a biologist, and going on to medical school if biology ends up being fairly easy for them. Maybe that looks like going into a trade if they're good at working with their hands. Playing professional sports--or being a touring musician that makes enough to live on, etc.--is like winning a jackpot in the lottery. Sure, you gotta play in order to win, but for every person that wins there's millions of people that don't. I would hope that you would say that anyone planning for retirement by buying lottery tickets was a fool, even if that person was your child. But even so, you can play sport for fun.