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[–] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 83 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

This is arguably the first generation that grew up with zero privacy. Being watched is normal to them - and absolutely horrifying for this Gen-Xer.

[–] Onii-Chan@kbin.social 47 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Horrifying for this millennial too.

[–] ares35@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago

this gen x'er isn't keen on the idea, either. before the days of cell phones, the street lights coming on was the cue it was time to go home--and we could go pretty much anywhere in our (small) town. and later as a teen when we lived close to a city, all mom wanted to know was whether i'd be home for supper. there was no worry because every 'horrible' thing to happen to a kid wasn't published or broadcast for the world to see.

[–] ramble81@lemm.ee 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Aren’t Gen Z kids being raised by Gen X’ers? So wouldn’t it stand to reason that their parents are enabling and pushing this?

[–] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 22 points 1 year ago

Yes. Strange isn't it?

Gen-Xers are also guilty of letting corporate surveillance happen, thereby letting their children grow under the watchful eye of big data.

I never said my generation was virtuous. In fact, I blame people my age for not affording the next generation what they themselves got to enjoy. Just like we blamed our boomer parents for enjoying the good life after the war and leaving us the crumbs. Little did we know the ones after us would have it even harder.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Mostly, but also younger boomers and older millennials. It’s not as straightforward as it seems when it comes to generations.

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Yeah but if you were a parent or if you are one. Would you do it? I could see doing it and just trying not to use it but man with some of the crazy kidnappings nowadays I would like to be able to find out where they are or at least have a last time and location for the police to work off of.

[–] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 31 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yeah but if you were a parent or if you are one. Would you do it?

I am and I did not. Kids need to grow up without feeling they are being watched all the time. Or rather more accurately: kids need to grow up without being watched so they can sense when they are and take measures. Kids who grow up without any personal space don't even realize they're not free, and that's a perfect recipe to create adults that accept tyrannical governments without question.

My kids grew up doing stuff they didn't tell me about, and I didn't know where they were half of the time. And yes, at times, I worried. But it was important to let them be.

the crazy kidnappings nowadays

I've heard people of all ages say that all my life. This is a well-know cognitive bias (i.e. "things were better in the past") and it's simply not true. I'm fairly certain our society is much safer today than it was in the past.

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah I should really have not used the term nowadays. Thing is that folks in the past could not do anything like this to mitigate it. They did not have the option. If you where in the position to need it you might find your decision to not utilize it to be endlessly horrible.

[–] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If you where in the position to need it you might find your decision to not utilize it to be endlessly horrible.

It was a choice. I chose to let them risk life and limb doing whatever stupid shit kids do behind their parents' backs, risk being run over by a car or kidnapped as they walked to school. The risk was very small, and the benefits of letting them grow up with a normal, non-Orwellian childhood far outweighed them. Hell, my generation and those before me grew up like that and survived just fine.

But I agree: if something really bad had happened, I don't know how I could have lived with myself. And this always weighed heavily on my mind whenever they were late to come home.

[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

You're trading your own feelings for your kid's long-term well-being and learning. Many people would take the easy approach because your way is "scary". Bravery is doing what needs to be done even if you're afraid.

I'd call that right and proper. It's what we adults are supposed to do. The number of times I've carried a crying infant to get them settled down while I could barely walk from excruciating back pain... It's our job to take that on.

It's funny, many of those parents who are tracking their kids would probably say "I sacrifice every day by working long hours so my kids have a warm, safe home" without realizing that giving them a long leash is also a sacrifice of parent's (willingly take on worry) so kids grow up well.

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah. The other thing is though that if you have a cell phone you are allowing all sorts of companies and maybe governments track you all over the place, but there is an issue with family? Sure they don't really care so maybe thats a thing but they don't care till they do which is really wierd. It feels sorta adult to recognize the tracking that is happening and not seeing it as a big deal for the right reasons family wise. Take the opposite. Elderly parents being tracked by adult children. It would be interesting if parents started allowing their children to track them at some age.

[–] Duranie@midwest.social 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My 21yo soon wants to build out a van and take a chunk of time (6 months?) in between jobs and drive around the States. We're talking over a year from now, but as the idea has come up in discussion I told him that I'd like to have some form of tracker set up. He's good with it.

[–] apis@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Garmin sell these beacon devices, which can be used to either check in with relatives, or to summon help to their location.

They're expensive, and intended more for people heading into remote areas, but might give you both some peace of mind, without tracking his every move.

[–] MightyWeaksauce@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

My sister had trackers in the trunk of all of her kids cars. She told them it was there, they never had a problem with it. The clear signal wasn't mom and dad are watching you... it was "don't get into mischief in your own car" lol

Pretty good advice really 🤷🏻‍♂️