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And she said she would celebrate when I'm gone.

I know a lot of dark and legally dubious thing about my parent's bussiness and I'm on the verge of just spilling the beans about every possible law they've broken. Fuck it, trump can deport all of us then.

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[–] FunctionallyLiterate@lemmy.ca 58 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Set up a "Dead Man's Switch" & tell her about it. Tell her if something happens to you then it'll automatically trip sometime shortly thereafter, and air all their dirty laundry. You can even show her the article if she doesn't believe you.

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Why wait till you're dead? Why not just release it now? I don't get why you wouldn't.

[–] FunctionallyLiterate@lemmy.ca 34 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)
  1. You don't have to be dead for it to trigger, just don't reset the timer before it runs out.

  2. The purpose here is to maintain the current status quo (I presume OP is dependent upon their parents currently) so OP has more time to find alternate living arrangements. Having this sort of ticking time bomb to hold over her head shifts the balance of power towards OP, and may help keep the mother more in line.

[–] agavaa@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago

When someone wants you dead you don't provoke them, you give them an incentive to not killl you. Plus it gives you the satisfaction of having them in a checkmate.

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de -1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The issue with this is people can adapt to it. He might have 'evidence' that they've done something wrong, but unless it's ironclad they can hide what they've done, and now you've made them specifically have a reason to get rid of you.

[–] FunctionallyLiterate@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I got the impression OP was smart enough not to fully reveal their hand. As far as specifically having a reason goes, she doesn't sound rational enough to need any more of a reason if she were serious. I doubt they can just "get rid of" their own kid without creating significant troubles for themselves - at least not here in America.

Never mind that it just sounds like she's got mental issues she's taking out on OP, or she'd actually have done something rather than letting OP know what she's planning. I figure OP just needs to shut her up for their own sanity.