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Context for all of the following: I am a long time programmer who is also a hiring manager for programmers.
Interviews are not real life. During an interview the dynamics of power imbalance between yourself and the people deciding on your livelihood fuck with most people’s brains and cause them to think and behave differently than they do in real life. During an interview people are nervous, vulnerable, and outside of their element to an extreme degree.
Someone struggling to perform at anywhere near their normal level during an interview is exceedingly common and reasonable. It’s super silly to say “if you can’t perform under extreme stress that you won’t experience day to day then you just aren’t a real programmer”.
Edit: tagging @i_am_a_cardboard_box@lemmy.world because they should see this too.
Agree with everything you said, but if you're going to ask me about anything, then the thing I do 40 hours a week every week should be a safe subject. If I'm interviewing a chef, I'll probably ask them about working in a kitchen. I may even ask them to demonstrate something.
I think it's a reasonable expectation.
The key thing is to be as relaxed as you can be. Interviewing is a skill you learn, so go for a few interviews that you're not as interested in. Try not to go for your dream job first, because you'll be stressed to hell. Get a couple under your belt first if you can.
Interviews aren't an exam. They're a conversation.