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Are you still friends with any of your exes? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 6 months ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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My ex "K" just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Depends.

Some I cultivated afterwards - gave some space, and later pitched a "I don't want to get back together but I miss hanging out. Lemme buy coffee" to usually good effect. If you're compatible as friends still, it could be a very strong friendship. But you broke up for a reason, so keep that in mind.

But sometimes you're really incompatible and a simple friendship isn't even healthy for you two. That's okay too.