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Are you still friends with any of your exes? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 2 weeks ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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My ex "K" just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.

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[–] tias@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I have some exes that I wanted to and could be friends with (one I was for several years). But it just doesn't fly with a new domestic partnership. I can tell my current girlfriend that I'm going to see female friends, but going out with friends who I've previously had sexual relations with is stretching it. I wouldn't want my girlfriend to do that and so I won't do it to her.

It makes me a bit sad, but I have effectively ended those friendships by no longer agreeing to seeing them.

I also have exes that I wouldn't wish on my biggest enemy and I avoid them like the plague.