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[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world -2 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Lots of arguing here who has it worse. Hard to get objective comparisons.

I suppose asking post-op trans people might be the best way to come closest to objective information on the subject. Wonder if the data from transfemmes and transmascs would be significantly different.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (3 children)

Depression from being forced to grow up the opposite gender entirely removes my objectivity on this topic. Cis men don't experience that same feeling so I can't comment on what they feel.

I can say I personally feel a lot better as a woman though.

~~Also, cis women can stop their periods. My roommate has a thing injected in their arm for birth control that also fully stops their periods for (iirc) ~5 years.
Also I saw online that if you skip a dose of pill birth control before your period you can also skip the period, but I don't have a uterus so I can't confirm if that's true lol~~

edit: This topic is a lot more complicated than I thought it was. I apologize.

Cis man, lifelong treatment resistant depression here, I might not understand disphoria, but I sure as shit know depression. It's why my primary emotions are empty void and the repressed rage from a lifetime of being told to "get over it"

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Saying cis women can just stop their periods if they feel like it is a vast over simplification. Birth control fucks with your hormones often in very unpredictable ways. My friend had a light period for like 3 months straight due to her birth control and the doctors said that was fine and normal. In me, birth control triggered treatment resistant suicidal depression that I deal with to this day. In my sister, it gave wild mood swings and general emotional instability. My other sister was just plain allergic to it.

It's dangerous for women to go on hormonal birth control even though it's so common and normalized. Women's Healthcare in the USA is so hit or miss, and doctors are often uninformed or dismissive. Maybe you live elsewhere where it's better?

Please understand that periods are absolutely not optional. Even a complete hysterectomy (not that many of us could be granted one anyway) would trigger early menopause which is its own host of issues.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I had no idea it was so different for different people. I did not mean to downplay your issues at all, I apologize

[–] ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah birth control is a real crapshoot sometimes, my sister got the arm thing and it sent her into menopause at 35 so it had to be removed

[–] LemmyThinkAboutIt@lemmy.zip 1 points 26 minutes ago

Menopause or perimenopause? Menopause is just the day that a woman hasn't had a period for 365 days. After that day, they're post menopause. Leading up to menopause is called perimenopause and it can last up to 10 years and start for some women in their late 30s. I hope I'm not coming off as rude, I just like to try and educate people about this sort of thing because for much too long women have not openly talked about perimenopause/menopause and us elder millennials and Gen xers currently going through it are no longer staying silent about it as our mothers and grandmother's did.

[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I've noticed a trend (at least in online spaces I've been in) that trans women are much more present and vocal about their experiences than trans men. Do you have any observations on that topic? I wonder if trans women are simply more numerous, or perhaps trans men have more reasons to not be so vocal, e.g., ingrained shyness etc.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I know that on Lemmy specifically the number of trans women is significantly higher than the number of trans men, iirc Tumblr Pinterest and bluesky are places that trans men tend to be more dominant.

There is also a point that there's not much about men that women don't already know compared to the VAST amount of things that men don't know about women.
So when someone switches gender the transfems tend to have a lot more learning and will overshare their experiences to help prevent the struggle for the next transfems that come along.

though obviously that's not to downplay the issues that trans men experience, there's a lot of things that I thought were obvious that my transmasc friends had no idea about

[–] ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

I'm going to HARD disagree on women knowing more about men, I was raised surrounded by women, two sisters, single mother, three aunts, all cousins but one are women in my generation too, and they had no idea what to do with us, plenty of women still think an erection means consent for God's sake