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[–] 520@kbin.social -1 points 2 years ago (8 children)

I get that it isn't simple or easy. There are parts of myself that I hide in public too, things that shouldn't matter but for some reason do.

But if people are demanding that you give and give and give until there is nothing left, you owe it to yourself to either tell them to get fucked or find a way to get them out of your life. Easier said than done, I know, but it is the only way you will be free of that bullshit.

[–] Kedly@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Bud, we hide this shit because the punishment for not doing so is worse than whatever we gain from not hiding it, we wouldnt have started hiding it if it weren't

[–] 520@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago (4 children)

I have autism. I know far more about that than you'd think.

[–] Kedly@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Ok and? I have autism too and the point still stands. The world we live in exists as it is and we have to work with that, fair or not. Isolation and ostracization arent healthier for you mental health than learning what you can and cant say

[–] 520@kbin.social 0 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Bruh, did you read what I wrote or did you skim it? I talked about cutting off toxic people, not isolating yourself totally.

[–] Kedly@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Most people get choosy about their inner circle as they get older. The issue is that most of us still have to interact with society at large outside of our inner circle, and no, telling people who you interact with at work or while grocery shopping to fuck off doesnt end well

[–] 520@kbin.social -2 points 2 years ago

Most people get choosy about their inner circle as they get older.

Yes, making new friends is hard. Wanna know what else is hard? Living life surrounded by fake friends that make you not want to continue in life. Choose your 'hard'.

The issue is that most of us still have to interact with society at large outside of our inner circle

What part of that means you have to put up with disrespectful behaviour?

and no, telling people who you interact with at work or while grocery shopping to fuck off doesnt end well

The 'fuck off' is not meant to be literal. The point is to stand up for yourself. If that isn't viable, cut them off.

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