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A Boring Dystopia
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Yes... and no.
I'm going on my 41st year with the husband, and thinking back to when we first met, and started hanging out together and dating.. It was never about the money. We packed lunches and went on picnics, took road trips and went hiking and only occasionally went out to eat. The first time we met, we were in a bar, and struck up a conversation. We'd hang out with mutual friends and chill playing frisbee or catch at the local park. (We both still have the gloves we got as kids in high school!)
In the long run, it's not about how much money you can spend trying to impress each other, or having a good time be defind by an experience created by or bought from other people.. It's about how much time you want to spend together, it's about having conversations, and when those moments you have suddenly not go the way you planned, you roll with it and find a way together, to make it work and have fun regardless.
Best time we had was on a trip into Boston to go to the museum.. Got stuck in traffic behind a road accident and sat for an hour, joking with each other and laughing at everyone else also stuck in traffic having freakouts over it. Him mangling the lyrics to songs on the radio and throwing out terrible bad dad jokes and puns. That was the moment I realized this guy sitting next to me was a keeper.
If you like each other and are easy in that company, it's not going to matter if you're in a fancy restaurant or not.. and at that point why waste the money?
What I've found that makes a relationship into a lifelong adventure aren't the things that can be bought, they're the moments that are unexpected and personally yours.