When in doubt I choose change. This hasn't always worked out, but it has been interesting.
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Yeah, I've had similar anxiety recently choosing a new place for my family to live. I think keep in mind that if both choices seem like good options you're likely to get some good outcomes either way. My wife put it like this,
What's nice is the way the human brain works, down the road we'll be thinking, "I'm glad we made this choice because then X happened."
hallettj, I really like your wife's take!
OP these two pieces of advice from an old college professor might help:
- If you can't choose between two things, make a list of all the pros and cons of the first thing, then a list for the second thing, place them side by side, and make an emotional decision.
- Always have a Plan B.
About 15 years ago I left the career path I'd started to move cross country and go to graduate school. I thought I might want to do research. Some wonderful things and some terrible times came out of that. I learned and grew greatly. Strangely I ended back on a similar career path, not as far along as I might have been but not back at the beginning either. Nothing's a mistake as long as you learn from it. Whichever path you take, check in with yourself sometimes to see if it's still working for you. If not, ask yourself what you can learn from that info.
If you have any questions about specifics I'm happy to try and answer.