I once dropped a puppy to see if it would land on its feet.
I was four.
Children have to learn/develop empathy. It's ok that you lacked it at one point. It's wonderful you have it today. Never listen to anyone who says it's a sin.
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Calm down, Hitler.
Three incidences of childish behaviour a decade ago won't make you good or bad.
I beg to differ. It's obvious this person is evil reincarnated. They'll probably pinch Satan when they are burning in hell.
/s
A truly bad guy wouldn't ask this question.
I guess so. Recently my mind has just be going back to things from the past to make me feel guilty about
This is the first reply I've received on LEMM. It's really interesting. Thank you.
But you donβt think Iβm a bad person?
I don't know you, and I can't judge whether a person is good or bad just from the words they write.
I remember hearing somewhere, and believe, "a person can do a bad thing, but that doesn't make them a bad person."
You were young. Looking back now and feeling bad about it is a good sign.
Noone can tell if youre a bad person based on this. But youre definitely not the same person as back then. To the better or worse, who knows. Its in the past, you cant change it, but you can make sure that you wont be doing stuff like that (or adult equivalents) in the future. Dont bury the memories, keep them as a reminder but also dont beat yourself up over it too much.
I kicked another kid in the face, pulled a girls hair, pissed on someone's car, threw stones at windows, stole other kids toys, all before the age of 8.
All bad things that I now know were wrong. But I was a child. As were you, so it's nothing to worry about if you recognise your wrongdoings.
I know. Iβm just someone that when I feel guilty or convicted about something I take it pretty hard. Especially recently
Some people never grow up. You did.
Recognise that your feelings of guilt are signs of maturity and growth. If you looked back with no issue then I would be concerned. But that's not the case.
Try not to dwell on things that happened a decade+ ago. You're not the same person. Learn from it and move on.
Thanks I appreciate it. I donβt know why but lately Iβve just been thinking about all the bad things I did in the past.
Humans aren't born with very strong impulse control, it's something that is typically learned over the years. I wouldn't beat yourself up too much over childhood indiscretions, that from your accounts seem pretty harmless.
Nice try Elon. Go back to Twitter.
I'd say you're a pretty good person. Taking responsibility and accountability for your past actions and learning from them is a good thing.
You did shitty things. We've all done wrong at some point in our lives. As long as you're actively trying to be better today than you were yesterday, you're alright.
Yeet the baby!
I blame the parents.
No, you didn't know better then and you do now. You're fine. Also you might want to research OCD.
Do you think itβs OCD thatβs causing this?
It sounds like it to me
Okay. Because I have like, adhd and I take medication for it but I have been without the medication for weeks (long story) and ever since then my mind has been bothering me about a lot of things from the past. I donβt know if that has anything to do with OCD or not but
There is no ethical consumption while living a capitalist way of life. We are all bad people.