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Why or why not?

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[–] onslaught545@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I personally wouldn't, but I certainly wouldn't disparage others who would.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

if you feel comfortable sharing, I'd be interested to hear more

[–] onslaught545@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

To put it simply, I enjoy having sex with genuine female genitalia. I enjoy getting to explore it, play with it, and please it.

No matter how good a surgeon is, it's just not going to be the same as the real deal.

[–] AnotherUsername@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

That's such a weird order of operations. Like, your medical conditions are simultaneously such a big part of your life, and yet also so deeply personal that it feels like they should not be part of the initial conversation, which is supposed to be shallow and light, not immediately heavy duty.

I think perhaps there are other more important considerations than mere trans-ness, like "do they have the same overall life goals that I have" and "are they taking care of their mind and body and fitness". But transness may inform those aspects. If a significant focus of their life is on their own gender, I might struggle with that. If they're already at a point where they have dealt with it and moved on to other things, then it might work. If they have comorbid issues beyond transness, like depression and anxiety, that can be a deal breaker unless they are managing themselves and putting in the work.

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm bi, and also trans, so no problem, lol

[–] krunklom@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

No.

It really doesn't have much to do with their biology tbh, it's because nobody I've ever met who is trans ever shuts the fuck up about being trans.

Be a man or a woman, gay, fucking whatever. I really don't care. Like at all. But I find vanity and self absorption huge turnoffs.

If you want to make your entire identity a single thing I again have no issue with it but I also wont want to be around you.

I dont have a problem with you. I just dont want to stand around beating a dead horse over and over and over again.

Also a penis is a straight up non starter. Everything to do with dudes gives me the ick.

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[–] dastanktal@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 1 week ago

Yes. I found them attractive and enjoyed their personality. I don't care about the genitals they have.

[–] Penguincoder@beehaw.org -1 points 1 week ago (3 children)

No. Starting any relationship with a lie or withholding the truth is not kosher to me. Now, knowing form the start, an attractive lady is an attractive lady. Let's have that discussion. But I am also biologicaly a male and I quite enjoy the female form and all associated enjoyment with such. I do not find androgynous or males attractive at all, just not wired that way.

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