It's good to be even-tempered, and it's also good to care for things that don't directly affect you (society, trees, shade you won't enjoy and all that jazz).
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Emotional dysregulation is a bitch.
The opposite of love is not hate but apathy. If you give something your attention, it’s getting something out of you, whether you want it to or not, whether they’re aware of it or not.
If you want to truly hurt someone in a way that doesn’t hurt yourself, just cut them out of your life and move on.
One side of my brain knows this is correct.
Some people just like to be upset
The Dalai Lama is a very controversial figure.
In 2023, the Dalai Lama faced controversy after an incident in which he kissed a young boy on the lips and then asked him to "suck his tongue" during a public event. This sparked widespread criticism and accusations of inappropriate behavior. However, the Dalai Lama and his representatives later clarified that the incident was meant to be playful and that there was no inappropriate intention behind it. The situation led to discussions about cultural differences and the responsibilities of public figures.
The worry happens when you're uncertain if you can do something about the situation. Certainty brings a lot of peace of mind if you can manage it.
That's my reaction broadly to hate.
Even beyond the fact that it's destructive and ugly, it just seems like a pointless waste of time and energy. I don't get why anyone invests that much time and energy into being miserable, and especially over something that can't possibly really matter in their lives.