For me its was self harm , it took over 10 years to stop finally . Im truly blessed that I healed mentally and physically ( barely any scarring , infections or anything of that matter )
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Nail bitting.
Lengthy convo about it in response to another comment, that may have some helpful tips!
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Oof. I feel for you.
i'm dealing with a porn/masturbation addiction too, personally...i just kind of came to terms with the fact that i like porn, it allows you to explore fetishes that you otherwise wouldn't be able to (legally/ethically) irl.
but now i make a conscious choice to goon, not as some automatic general response to stress (as most behavioral addictions tend to be). and of course, gooning is no replacement for actual irl human sexual/social interaction.
i also found that alot of it was the result of death-grip syndrome, getting basic toy allowed sensitivity to return to the point where i could get off from a quick 5m jerk sesh instead of some hours long rabbithole of trying to find something debauched enough to get me off
Dabs for sure. I didn't know that you could use it heavily enough to cause actual physical withdrawal symptoms, but I sure found out
A number of years ago, I was about 28 years old. My neighbor was my coworker, about 25, and we were friends.
One day he was having a small get together and invited me over. About 8 people, all 21-26 years of age. They were doing dabs. I did a couple, and wanted to do something fun, a game or something. Everyone at that "party" had done so many dabs they were couch zombies, falling asleep. I left from boredom.
It was so weird to me, and sad. I hope you're feeling better these days with your relationship to dabbing.