I have like a lot of comments with some fucked-up family stuff like: "Oh yea btw my mom said she want a 3rd child because she's disappointed in her first 2 children" and then I feel like I'm trauma-dumping too much lol
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Easy for me to do that kind of thing as well. Like, to me, there's just kinda funny stories, but perhaps others don't see it that way. OTOH, I have a hard time asking people I'm not really comfortable with basic small-talk questions sometimes because it feels like prying. Like, I don't mind dropping something like "I found out recently that the person who birthed us traded us for a blanket once*" but I might feel weird asking how people's holidays were.
*its not anywhere near as bad as it sounds
i don't talk about it IRL, but online i overshare a lot about mental health shit. sometimes i find a way to work in the fact that i'm tourettic or autistic or bipolar, like....well, like right just now
That's because we need to talk about this stuff to heal and doing it IRL with other people invites smugness, Messiah complex, condescension and general mental violence because people get off on schoidenfrade - and I think it's largely because the shaming culturs of the world are linked to the global rise of NPD (or narcissistic personality disorder) since the 1960s.
This is why so many people seek therapy, why we have more PTSD now than ever before and why the psychiatric institutions of the world has signaled that we're going through a global mental health pandemic - full stop.
Even the normies be fucked in the head. They're just too conceited to figure it out.
Schadenfreude, the "oi" sound is in "Freude" :)
I prefer the Norwegian "skadefryd".
Not bad either
Nah, probably a combination of not being able to vent to my sickly mum and being bullied in school b/c of all the undiagnosed nonsense.