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My personal methods for this, may or may not work for others.

1. don't take personal responsibility for things you can not personally control. This is the source of despair.

2. choose where you get your information from carefully. If the source is pushing a particular version of events too strongly they're trying to get a reaction from you. Drop em.

3. Getting more than one source prevents being pulled too far in one direction. Having too many causes confusion and uncertainty. Two or three good sources of news is enough.

4. study history. Read about politics and events throughout all of human history. This gives you context and can be very soothing as you get a perspective broader than any single human life.

5. focus on yourself and your life. Is that improving? What small steps do you want to take to improve that?

6. drop the scripts you're given. You've been told what Your life should look like but it's rarely possible to meet those expectations and the news re-enforces this. Drop the scripts and live your own life based on what is possible and desirable for you.

There's probably more I could say here but that feels like the heart of it.

I actively avoid news. If something is important enough then it'll make its way into my life one way or another. Besides, me being aware of the billions of problems in the world doesn't change their outcome one bit, it just makes me unhappy. I've been more engaged with the news since joining Lemmy, since I don't have my feed completely curated yet, and I've noticed a significant decline in my overall happiness. As a result, I've become more aggressive with my blocklists this last week.

This is probably not what you're looking for, but at the height of Covid I made myself a prototype browser extension that would scan the front page of the two newspapers I read and replace all headlines containing certain keywords with a random dog picture. Everything was hardcoded and it only worked for the two news websites I used the most at the time, but it was fantastic.

Maybe there's something similar, but production-ready and publicly available?

I haven't been doomsrolling for at least 15 years. Even on Reddit, I had my frontpage curated to block most of the "doom" stuff... but leaving Reddit behind and switching to Lemmy, has definitely cut on that even more.

I DO NOT directly visit news sites, AT ALL. Only whatever I get through news aggregators.

Currently, my sources are:

• Beehaw Local
• LemmyWorld Local
• LemmyWorld Subscribed (only cool/funny stuff)
• Google News recommends (curated down to mostly science, tech and space)
• YouTube (similarly curated)
• TV (mostly the looping 24h news broadcast, mostly the beginning with the headline blurbs, turning it off when I start getting fed up)
• Fedilab (mastodon, following some people, artists, etc.)
• Porn (check on 𝕏, quick search on your favorite website, y'know the drill)
• A couple Facebook groups (FB's ads interrupt the scrolling and make me close the whole thing)

I try to switch from one source to another in a more or less regular pattern, never staying too long on a single feed, and engaging by writing comments or looking up related stuff.

You could say I'm somewhat "underinformed", but actually get a decent cross-section of news about local, country, world, general science and tech, and some niche interests.

As for a constant state of anxiety... well, on one hand I'm in more of a resigned state of despair about the world... and I take anti-anxiety meds... so... yeah, not sure how much is owed to information hygiene, and how much to just giving up/not giving a crap.

I've mostly left social media and replaced it with RSS feeds of a couple of news outlets that I trust for good AND non-depressing news coverage (can't really recommend them as they are in French; in English I just have a couple of "extra sources" for LGBT & sports topics).

It's been wonderful to finish the list and not have anything left to read. No more doomscrolling! It's great!

Get a decent news aggregator. Check it once a day as part of another routine to help reinforce it as "This is a thing I do once a day when I do X (eat breakfast or whatever)". Close the news aggregator. If you want to scroll something, get a decent non-news aggregator. Bonus points if the aggregators are on totally separate websites so that you have less temptation.

I, too, find striking the balance between staying informed and protecting myself from negativity to be daunting, disheartening, and frequently unrealistic.

What helped me was my coincidental transition to services that have little or no "algorithmic" influence, such as switching to Lemmy/Mastodon. It requires me to be more intentional with my willing exposure to content, at the cost of being less convenient to find new content.

Like, I don't get as many new songs in my playlists since I jumped out of Spotify. It means I need to get creative in order to try new artists, but I'm not hitting the skip button as much, either.

I find the balance by acknowledging that I am one of 8 billion people and that there are going to be 7.9 billion problems happening at any given moment. I think about my problems and how a majority of them are frivolous and minor. I acknowledge that there's endless, immense amounts of problems for other people that are far greater than what I deal with.

And yet, I can do nothing for them. Not to sound brash, but why exert the energy worrying about something I can't possibly have an affect on? Moreover, if I'm spending time worrying about things outside of my community, what time am I putting into helping my community? I wholeheartedly feel for refugees and absolutely loathe the man who called them dogs, his statements and our countries actions are abominable and they are just one of a litany of examples.

What exactly is the need to stay informed? Informed about what? Are these things that you are able to effectively assess and help? Do you have the money for every crisis charity or in need individual? I mean, what good does actively searching out these issues in the world bring you except for dishearten you and make the way you perceive life harder?

Don't get me wrong from any of this - I am kind, ever giving and ever helpful at the drop of a hat before the question is even asked. I am a doer and I aspire to inspire by doing the right thing. But the right thing is relative. To do the right thing you have to take care of yourself first - you cannot set yourself on fire putting someone else out.

The balance is being positive and spreading that positivity at any given opportunity. It's not helpful to engage in doomscrolling, even if the goal is to "stay informed" about the latest climate disaster two states away, or how Mexico is doing during Hurricane Hilary. Is the time you spent reading about all of that time spend taken away from your morning walk where you'd have come across the elderly person who needs assistance? Sounds silly but my old home was next to an assisted living facility so one of my semi-weekly happenings was to help these people in wheelchairs get across our terribly busted up roads.

The balance is finding ways to engage in your local community. Work or volunteer at the library or a non-profit performing arts center, get involved in the bills that are being proposed for your city and fight for them if they're worth it and fight against them if they're not. Change starts locally. We may be inspired to hear about the people of Hong Kong, but if we don't actually do anything about our local problems then why are we cheering them on? Oh good, at least someone somewhere is doing something? Do your schools have funding for arts? Mine do not, so if kinds want to learn music or theater they have to do it as an extracurricular. These places are normally non-profit, heavily volunteer sponsored and are chronically understaffed. If you don't like kids, senior facilities, hell the entire caregiving field if you don't like old people either!

The balance is feeling where your time is well spent. Are you only reading articles and resharing them? Are you only commenting in spaces where other people are agreeing? Are you only engaging in spaces where you antagonize each other? My only political time spent on the old-place was sheerly spent speaking to the people on the fence. I'd usually be responding to a right-wing/libertarian type who maybe seemed to have a semblance of realization that they may be perpetuating evil, or I'd be categorically listing against their every point pushing on empathy and action. I'd never aim to insult, I'd try and work from their perspective while pushing for human morals. In retrospect, it was all a waste of time. At the time though it was 2016 and so any chance of what I had to say changing someones perspective if even a little felt important. Now I only bother if it's someone who genuinely seems misguided in good faith and that's way more rare now. Was that time composing a speech style essay better spent than resharing ~5 articles about various different issues that others may have already seen? Who knows, realistically bother were just scrolled past. Most of mine would barely get 5 votes at all, rarely ever being more than 20 votes. And I am almost 100% certain that my words, about this much text in response, is seen and not read forever ignored by the person I was actually responding to. I know because they are the type of people to not bother responding. In the same vein, what is resharing those articles doing if people are just seeing the same headline again, but from you this time? Realistically, neither making this speech nor sharing those articles are having any effective change, but the hope is that they make someone think? Or at least, I hope to make someone reevaluate something with another perspective and the article has whatever its agendas are, usually just trying to inform. (But again... inform what and why?)

As with all things, I think there's something to be said about moderation. If by trying to be aware of everything we are paralyzed into doing nothing then are we not worse off? That's not at all to say stay ignorant, but rather to focus on learning what you can effectively bring change to. Realistically, we cannot help another country. Spending my time looking at the tragedies of war or natural disasters won't make me a better person. Ignoring them by choosing to spending my time more effectively doesn't make me a worse person. Realistically, we cannot help another state (to an extent) Spending my time scrambling to put together links for donating to worthwhile charities to help Maui? That one is actually great as long as no one else has done that work. But worrying about the train spill in Ohio, Flint, Michigan's water situation, or the latest assault weapon attack? There is really not too much that you or I can do about that from where we are. And realistically, we cannot help even another city, easily at least.

But realistically, we can absolutely help our town or city, and fairly easily. We can absolutely get involved in our local community, and as we learn about what moves are being made here we can make the connections we need to network with other cities. Suddenly you're a part of the town hall meetings and because of the area you live eventually you are the liaison with the local police and you are the direct shotcaller for how they might deal with the homeless population, which gives you the opportunity to meet with the mayor to discuss how budgeting for services would actually reduce the total cost and whatever other stuff to get less cops and alleviate the homeless. Again, not totally BS here as my dad is in progress, hopefully, accomplishing just this. Living here for almost 20 years and have been making calls to our P.D. monthly the whole time - break-ins, day thefts, assaults, my dead end road, my parents, and I have seen a lot. It sucks being an activist and needing to have a relationship with the police, but it's them or actual bigger issues. But now after all that time, the last couple years my dad has been consistently going to town hall meetings and speaking up about the problems that we have (re: crime, unchecked drug abuse and lack of services). Just a year before that our city passed something that made it so police can't make people leave private property, which is mostly good, but even in situations where they'd started fires, which is really bad. Normally I'd support CalTrain land being freely camped on, but using it as an open bonfire during fire season is not the way to do it. Anyway, if this proposal is well received and seems viable to our city then it could be a program that becomes more widely adopted.

So from my experience, the healthy balance between staying informed and doomscrolling is to not doomscroll if it's stopping you from helping. You don't even need to stay informed as you will most likely see and hear all the same things just through your daily routine if there's a TV with news, a phone with a web browser, or a newspaper with a headline. I'm not saying don't read them when you come across them, I'm saying why actively seek out problems from afar, especially when we can be the solution to problems right in front of us. The best way to have a healthy balance is to get involved in your local community. You have a public school that probably needs help, an extracurricular that gives a child something to look forward to and sets them on a good path, a local library that wants readers, a person who wants to work but just needs a little assistance. There's hundreds of problems all around you, including your own. Why worry about whatever Egypt or Venezuela or our climate? Make the changes to the things you have an affect on directly and let yourself be healthy enough to accomplish them. If doomscrolling or staying on top of every little thing paralyzes you then you will accomplish more by avoiding them entirely.

I'm doing something where I can when I can. Personally I think that matters more than trying to know about every tragedy. It's sad, but we live in the age where almost anything that happens can be answered with, "which one?" Rather than getting caught up in that cycle, I aim to try and break it by simply being present in the moment and doing what needs to be done to prevent other things from collapsing. Don't be reactive but aim to be proactive, and don't fall into the trap where being proactive is trying to show just how aware of everything wrong with the world you are. You've already talked about how that cycle hasn't worked for you.

It doesn't work for anyone.

Stay positive friend, and spread it.

I feel you.

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If you wanted to read about my approach and findings read the about:

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Short and sweet summary?

1. Read one of the news wires for general world and national knowledge (AFP, Reuters, AP, UPI, etc).
2. Read investigative local news for local stuff.
3. Read the news 3 times per week (kinda like a scheduled workout). This can help limit the doom scrolling.

Personally I like AP for general awareness, RollCall for US congressional stuff, and my city’s paper for local news.

I did not

My three main sources to follow the news (from France) :

• Leftist twitch streamers (reacts and press reviews)
• a website that handpicks funny tweets about the news of the day
• my wife

That keeps me informed on most of the important facts while adding a light touch with humor. I also like to read and watch other people getting angry for me, it's cathartic.

It's something I struggle with a lot, too. I stay away from feeds and aggregates for the most part because they tend to have the most attention grabbing (ragebaut, despairbait, what have you) and just browse a handful of news sites when I want to get an idea of what's happening at home and around the world.

To keep from doomscrolling/binge reading despair, I limit my browsing to just an hour or two in the morning (or on lunch break, downtime at work) ever couple of days or so, unless there's a specific event that I want to follow (like Eurovision, Ukraine war update, my local election results, wildfire update etc).

I use Ground.news to see sources' factuality/credibility and biases, and scope out topics and sources of interest.

Grist.org focuses on environmental news and are pretty consistent about having some kind of meaningful, forward -facing conclusion in their articles. Usually in the form of ways everyday folks like you or me can contribute/participate, steps toward long term solutions, that kind of thing. Personally find these additions to be helpful in lessening the aftertaste of despair I'm usually left with whenevet I read the news..

I guess my advice is 1. moderation and 2. quality sources. Easier said than done, I know, but... Good luck 🐝

I also struggled with this in the last years. I felt overwhelmed with what is happening and thinking we need to do something and not seeing it happen left me despaired.

What helped me most was putting it (whatever it is) into perspective and decoupling what I hear about from what I feel compelled to do about it.

I am not an omnipotent being that can solve the world's problems by myself. I can only do what I can do and within the area I can control, I do what I can, using the abilities I have. Sometimes that also means not doing it, because I'm tired/exhausted/etc.

Only I can judge what I can and cannot do and that's fine.

A lot of the news going on in the world doesn't affect your life every day. That's my reasoning. But it's good to know what's going on and file it away.

I've got an app called SmartNews that pulls news from lots of different sources and aggregates them. My feed is set up to pull news only from the front pages of AP and Reuters - which seem to be mostly unbiased sources that both sides get info from for their articles and they use unbiased titles. I skim to the end of my feed (which isn't very long, maybe 20-30 articles) read a half dozen of them, and that's my news for the day. Every other media source has news and politics 100% filtered out.

I feel like it's enough info for informed decisions and topical conversations with my coworkers, but not so much that I dwell on news in my off time.

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I try to ignore those posts as much as I can, though of course some of them do indirectly concern me; I just don't really read into it. At the same time, I'm trying to do something about it. I would like nothing more then a good book or video game and to stay in my room with it all week/month, but I couldn't do that in good conscience knowing what's happening. So, despite my NEET soul, I'm in school slowly learning what I can do to hopefully pull the rug out from under the feet of a particular industry. It might be too late, but I'll try regardless. I still sometimes fall into that doom-scrolling-it's hopeless-why even bother mood, but a few hours of video games or a good book bring me out of it. ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°)

Learning more about socialism gave me hope for the future.

That's the neat part, you don't!

I struggle with this, I feel like Lemmy has affected me negatively overall. I guess you can't blame bad news being shared when the world is objectively shit, but no one benefits by you ruining you mental health.

Apathy and people not caring about politics is something that negatively affects the world by leaving all the choices to the ones with bad intentions, but caring too much can very quickly lead to desperation and hopelessness. I've been diving a bit into world history, trying to clear my mind from misconceptions and propaganda, but what I'm realizing is that everyone sucked, maybe excluding early hunter-gatherers.

In order to change the world, it takes power and the ability to cause harm to the ones standing your way, but this means that well meaning people who just want themselves and everyone around them to live a happy life can't really do much about it because doing something about it most often involves picking a side and dominating opposition. That unfortunately leaves powerful positions to the ones who are willing to do all that, who probably don't care all that much about everyone being happy or themselves being brutal.

And I think that's why we're left with a world so uncaring, so hostile to its own self, willing to take everyone down with them instead of working together.

Sorry for the rant, but it makes me feel better

if you find a way let me know..

I dont think its possible. Either you are informed about the shit happening in the world and you feel despair about it. Or you are uninformed and live a happy(?) life.