AttackBunny

Agreed, the amount of guys who told me "I'll marry you, and give you babies in a year" after dating for like 2 weeks, and like it was some goal I had, was ALARMING. I immediately ended all contact with those guys, no matter how much fun they were in the moment. Found husband like 15 years ago, and we are still very happy. MUCH happier than everyone I know with kids, and we own a business together.

Also, nevermind there are how many kids in foster care, that all those baby crazy lunatics refuse to even consider, because ew not my own progeny bullshit. I know it's not easy to adopt, because there is a suitability/means test, but that should say something, shouldn't it?

Ok, probably going to get downvoted, but here we go. I HATE hate hate hate children and especially babies. They cause a visceral reaction in me and it’s not good.

Their awful high pitched squeals, their sticky filthy hands, their germ carrying drippy snotty faces, their awful baby talk that doesn’t make sense, their smell (barf), that awful cooing/laugh I could go on forever. Add in the terrifying idea of carrying one of those parasites in my for 9 months and then popping it out, while destroying my body? No fucking thank you.

Add in that if you say you’re childfree people ALWAYS try to convince you that you need one. “Oh when are you and husband having baybeeeeees?” Never. “What!?!?!? Why!?!?!? They are soooooooo pwecous”. “You need to have at least one. They are miracles, and gods gifts.” “Who will take care of you when you’re old, if you don’t have kids. How will you have purpose in your life?” Idk Karen, maybe I have other interests, and hobbies, or volunteer. I’m fully satisfied with my life WITHOUT kids. Of course this doesn’t ever shut people up.

There are very few places on the internet, and really anywhere, where childfree people can actually, openly say how they feel. If you say things like “god won’t someone shut that screaming brat up” in public, best case you get the look of death. More likely a bunch of people chastising you for not being sympathetic to the poor mom, whose REALLY stressed out, obviously.

All of that eventually breed the comments like “I’m going to put the baby in the microwave”. I know I’ve had to resort to it a few times with extra pushy people, who pester me every time they see me about kids. You get macabre enough and everyone eventually stops asking. Plus hyperbole is fun.

Most human babies look like a sack of potatoes or Elmer Fudd. They aren’t cute. Ever.

I admittedly do not like children, do not find them cute, and don’t want to see them. Plus, I have a HUGE issue with people posting their children on social media sites, when the child can’t give consent. On top of the security issues with posting a pic of your kid, their first name and location (at least in the data if not stated). “Oh look at little Johnnys first trip to the blah blah lake” not cute.

It says further down in the article that he was busted down to private and is in the brig for 11 months. I suspect that most people don’t understand how the military ranking systems work anyhow, so it really means very little to most people, until you throw around words like general or commandant.

@Dashi

@GFGJewbacca

@jungekatz all the other answers are far more nuanced, and explain a lot more detail, but the most simple answers to your question are 1. Propaganda and 2. Herd mentality/echo chamber thinking.

I'm in my 40s, and I'm still not ready to have grey hair. I'll keep dying it until I'm ready for it. As for the rest of the stuff people put themselves through, no thanks. I'm not trying to spend huge sums of money on treatments, peels, products, or plastic surgery.

I have a bunch of younger cousins who are like you, they just don't give a shit about it. They and their friends don't think it's required to shave their legs/pits. They aren't dying their hair, or any of the other things to keep looking younger. They saw they parents doing it all, and just don't want to participate. I'm a little envious of their no fucks to give, but like I said, I'm not there yet.

Yeah.....

To OP, most kids look like some version of Elmer Fudd. My husband was a fat little shit as a baby/young child (he's tall and skinny now). I poke fun at him for it, a lot. Just like he pokes fun at me for looking exactly like Monchichi as a young kid.

Yes, but I’m sure your gastroenterologist told you that carbonated drinks can exacerbate IBS issues, so probably not a good choice.

So afaik love bombing requires you to be trying to get something out of it. Like if you were an asshole, and threw a chair through a window, and raged for an hour and stormed out of the house. Then you come with flowers, and candy, and some big elaborate date, in order to get them to forgive you and stay. That's love bombing. You're manipulating the person into thinking you'll never do it again, and you'll change, and all that BS.

IIRC it also applies to people who neg others. Say a whole mess of shitty things to someone, to bring their self esteem down, and then throw a compliment every so often, to keep them hooked.

It sounds like you really felt the way you said, and didn't have an ulterior motive, so love bombing doesn't apply.

lol. TikTok is absolutely NOT where you want to be then. I suppose you should ask yourself why you care about trends if you’re trying to live more intentionally.

As for giving up completely, imo it’s like people that go on hyper restrictive diets. It’s unrealistic. They fail every time. A reasonable amount of time on social is fine. It’s like ice cream, or a glass of wine. Once in a while is totally realistic. Spending all your time doing it is bad.

@pieceofcrazy

Guess you need to ask yourself how you see it improving your life, to answer that question.

IMO, no social media will improve your life, in a meaningful way. They may kill time, or seem like you're benefiting from them, but in the long run, they are propaganda/data collection machines, and nothing more.

Yup. Apple Watch for me. It works mostly seamlessly with the rest of my Apple stuff. I don’t think any others do.