Australis13

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Of all the schisms that cleave contemporary America, few are more stark than the divide between those who consider themselves to be victims of US history and those who fear they will be casualties of its future.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 3 points 1 week ago

The best case is when I am (1) well-rested, (2) not hungry or thirsty and (3) not already agitated/close to being overwhelmed going into it. Socialising definitely drains me, though, and I have gotten better at recognising when I need a break before it becomes critical. That way I can politely excuse myself (if it's a social function, usually I have a plan in advance to go outside or away from people for a bit to recover).

Unfortunately it's just reality that some people are energised by that type of conversation or social interaction, whilst for others it is exhausting. Energy management is the key thing for those of us who find it draining. Interoception is sometimes impeded for individuals on the spectrum, so if it's hard to identify or keep track of how are you going (and hence whether it is time to politely exit the conversation), there are exercises one can find online to help improve interoception.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It takes practice, but a good approach is not to go beyond a few sentences on a topic at a time. Give them a chance to change the direction of the conversation (which will happen if they are not interested) or ask follow-up questions (typically indicates that they are interested, although sometimes it may just be that they are being polite, in which case you'll usually only get one or two before the other person moves on to something else). As one of the other comments says, it's a dialogue, not a monologue - most of the time the other person isn't engaging to get information from you but to connect with you (and yeah, that can be a really nebulous concept at times!). It's really easy to infodump but most people don't have the context or depth of knowledge to follow a deep dive on a subject.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 19 points 1 week ago

Autism is not a deal-breaker. My spouse has ADHD and I have ASD. Granted, each of our neurotypes causes the other some frustration, but both are also factors in why we were attracted to each other in the first place.

Neurodivergent individuals often select for each other in partners and there are a lot of similar patterns in my extended family (to use your phrasing, they're all a bit "off"!). None of the relationship failures have been as a result of neurotype and most are still married, with the failures due to the same problems that NT couples deal with - poor communication, emotional immaturity, refusal to learn and grow, etc.

The key thing is to be yourself. If she likes you, you want her to like you for you, not the facade that so many of us have to wear to survive in the NT world.

And if she ghosts you, that's not a failure on your part. It says more about her than you - you took the risk and put yourself out there. If she doesn't show, perhaps she is insecure and afraid of telling you she's changed her mind, or perhaps something happened to prevent her from being there (since you mention films, this is a common trope too). Just be kind to yourself.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 183 points 1 week ago (16 children)

This is one case where I think Windows is appropriately designed for its target audience.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 4 points 2 weeks ago

Hell no. Do not give machines the ability to lie. We already have enough trouble with people using technology to deceive without it choosing to be deceptive on its own.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 2 points 2 weeks ago

Faction Paradox was an interesting concept. Be aware that some of the Eighth Doctor BBC books are a real slog to get through (Interference comes to mind - there just isn't enough plot for it to be two books). The main thing I didn't like about the wilderness years books (Virgin & BBC) was that they were distinctly more adult than the show, which I found jarring.

I do wonder what we would have gotten had Moffat left with Smith as he originally wanted. From what I heard, it sounded like he was stuck in the same situation JNT was in the mid 80s - if he wanted the show to continue, he had to run it. Unfortunately in both cases this corresponded to a decline in the show's quality (Colin Baker really shines in his Big Finish audios, but a lot of his TV episodes are terrible due to the writing; Sylvester McCoy fared slightly better, but still had stories like "The Happiness Patrol").

I haven't actually seen any of the Whittaker episodes apart from part of "The Power of the Doctor" (which my wife watched in its entirety and thought it came across as bad fanfic), but after I heard about the whole Timeless Child arc (which apparently Chibnall came up with as a kid watching the Seventh Doctor), I was not impressed. It felt like there was no respect for the show or its continuity. The Whittaker era might have been okay by itself, but as the part of the larger universe, it really grates on me.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 2 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Eight is one of my favourite Doctors, so I was really pleased with the references in "The Night of the Doctor". You are probably right that given the common contributors to both the Big Finish and BBC productions (e.g. Nick Briggs), Moffat couldn't ignore it. The fact that Sam and the others from the books aren't name-checked, though, was an interesting point and suggested that the BBC had rejected that continuity (especially since the new series destroyed Gallifrey all over again, not to mention much of the Cartmel Masterplan -- which I personally am glad never made it to TV -- that manifested through the Virgin Publishing series and which was implicitly accepted by the BBC Books, since many authors worked for both publishers).

Fair point about Jenny, although the Doctor certainly treats her as his daughter in the episode. In either case, though, I think the stronger argument is that Fifteen's comment simply indicates that he (in that incarnation) has not had children.

As for abandoning the show in the Capaldi era... The writing of the show was on a steady decline since 2010, with each season weaker than the previous. "The Time of the Doctor" was one of the worst regeneration stories and proved once and for all that Moffat is simply incapable of resolving plot arcs satisfactorily -- the whole Silence arc from 2010-2011 is explained away in basically a few sentences, plus "The Time of the Doctor" makes the resolution of "The Day of the Doctor" feel like a plot device just to provide an easy out for Moffat to resolve the issue of Eleven being the last incarnation of the 13-long cycle.

I think Capaldi would have made a fine Doctor (and the clips I saw of him later on supported that), but he was given rubbish to work with a lot of the time. Moffat only knows how to write one female character and too easily falls back on tropes (his favourite being "all the enemies at the same time", which worked really well in "The Pandorica Opens" because it was such a rare thing). I could go on, but from what I have seen and heard, the show has basically been unwatchable since 2014.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 3 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

The closest we get to an "in-universe" explanation for the Shalka Doctor is actually in The Gallifrey Chronicles, the final BBC Eighth Doctor book, where one of the surviving Time Lords (from the pre Time War BBC Books arc where Gallifrey is destroyed) notes that Eight's timeline is an utter mess and he has at least three separate "Ninth" incarnations. At the time, this was intended to cover both the Shalka Doctor and Eccleston's (although post "The Name of the Doctor", that would have been retconned to the War Doctor; in either case, one of them was meant to be the Time War incarnation). My personal view is that "Scream of the Shalka" is the timeline prior to the changes caused by the Time War.

Of course, "The Night of the Doctor" then seems to establish that Big Finish's Eighth Doctor continuity is the accepted one, rather than the BBC books, as Eight name-checks companions from the BF series rather than the BBC book series. Regardless of which continuity you accept, Eight's timeline is very convoluted in both cases (and probably the most complex of all Doctors).

I stopped watching after Capaldi's first season (as far as I'm concerned, the show ended with "The Day of the Doctor"), but the most obvious explanation for Fifteen's comment in "The Legend of Ruby Sunday" is that that incarnation hasn't had children. The implication was always that Susan was the First Doctor's biological grandchild, plus Ten not only mentioned having a family at one point but there was also Jenny (from "The Doctor's Daughter"), who one could argue was Ten's biological offspring.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 18 points 3 weeks ago

Oh, that's painful.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

100% cotton.

I find wool to be incredibly itchy and hate the coarse texture of jeans.

 

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-08-20/sovereign-citizen-australian-taxation-office-tax/104064368

Not Facebook, but still the same sovcit insanity and in this case, how the Australian Tax Office (ATO) is responding.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 1 points 1 month ago

If you're happy with OpenDNS logging your traffic, you could set the router to use them as the DNS server (assuming your network is DHCP and your father-in-law's devices just use whatever DNS server your router says). As long as one of your devices keeps OpenDNS updated with your IP (the one provided by your ISP), then you can look through the traffic to see what is being accessed (and even enabling category content blocking if you wish). Of course, if your father-in-law is IT savvy, he'll just manually set the DNS server on his devices.

[–] Australis13@fedia.io 95 points 1 month ago (4 children)

The crew should come back on the Dragon and Boeing be required to solve the problems and carry out another test flight. It is unacceptable that Boeing wants to bring the astronauts back without understanding some of the failures on the Starliner.

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