Diva

this is why I usually browse Lemmy in new/comments/all, I just wish it had more than one page at a time or the ability to set more posts in one page

Idk what your beef is with that poster but if you provide some background maybe I'll understand what you're referencing.

I do occasionally get some weird vibes outside of /traaa on there, though so far nothing like what you've run into. If you have any names I can look into this, I have mod privileges there and it could help me look out for sus stuff in the future.

Part of why I was interested in helping out there is because their megathreads are actually very active and I saw that whenever stuff like /tttt/ brainwormed shit came up there were lots of posters with actually good views on gender constructs chiming in to combat/explain unhealthy gender expectations.

If making up conspiracies helps you cope with your life that's certainly an approach people take.

I spoke up up to say I didn't like seeing 'allies' using bigoted language and you immediately got defensive which is a huge tell.

You just seem like a centrist extremist looking for an excuse to be homophobic.

Clicking on your moderation history is not stalking, it's literally right in the drop-down next to block user for me, and that was all right the top of your history.

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All I said was that I don't like seeing misogynist, homophobic transphobic, or sexual insults being used against even my enemies, because that's not behavior I would want to condone in my allies, or in spaces I participate in.

You seem to have an enormous chip on your shoulder, judging from your response to a trans woman giving her opinion on the matter. Your response was saying I'm mentally ill and a stalker for pointing out your past homophobic and aggressive behavior that's publicly visible and extremely obvious.

I've stuck with lemmy.ml because I like being able to access the trans comms on both hexbear and blahaj, which are defederated from each other.

you don't seem like you handle people disagreeing with you well. you've already called me schizophrenic because I had an issue with your history of homophobic comments, only to be like "well they're people I don't like politiclly so it's okay"

that was my original point, so thank you for demonstrating the behavior I guess

You’re the type to get weirdly sexual and homophobic when it’s people you disagree with. Not really interested in what you have to say tbh.

You're the type to get weirdly sexual and homophobic when it's people you disagree with. Not really interested in what you have to say tbh.

That's cool I don't need any more explanations.

To be clear I don't think I said agender pronouns in my last reply, that would bother me too- my point was that in the options available for that (mandatory) slot there are agender options - none/use name is actually the default option for all users (I made an account so I could poach emoji links).

I like that it's more isolated from the rest of lemmy, the vibe is just different in those comms and I have to imagine it's related to not constantly having people rolling up to sealion about reactionary/anticommunist shit. I do still like to interact with the rest of lemmy at the same time, which is why I'm pretty happy on .ml.

I do hope the support for community/server specific flairs gets some traction, it seems like it would actually have a pretty broad appeal and could be used for pronouns in addition to other things.

I think I got the nuance behind 'bigoted man I disagree with is actually a woman because women amirite?'.

I'm trans, and like actually hate these people, they deserve ridicule. However, if I'm willing to tolerate bigotry on my behalf towards people that are in some out-group, there's no guarantee that some day I won't be among that out-group and subsequently targeted by that type of bigotry. Do you understand the issue I'm raising?

I can't tolerate people misgendering Caitlen Jenner or Blair white because while they suck, it only contributes to an environment where that type of insult is then considered acceptable.