ElPsyKongroo

joined 2 years ago
[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

I wasn't necessarily disagreeing with you. My comment was to show a different perspective, not to dismiss or argue against yours. Or rather, not all of it. Cause I do agree on the "Sorry" VS "opt-out" part.

If I didn't know, but I assumed someone didn't want to date me I wouldn't ask them out. If you're operating "under the assumption that the other person doesn't want to talk to you" why are you wanting to date them? I only want to date people that want to at least talk to me.

Here I would add something, though. If this person doesn't see a path to success with any woman, I don't think he should necessarily give up, because at least some of the "There's no way it'd work" would be false. Some will be correct, but because of the constant rejection the guy faced, he will be assuming all are under the "There's no way it'd work"-umbrella. So if he stops pursuing a relationship in general in order to avoid women who will reject him (which, in his mind, would be everyone), it'd become a self-fullfilling prophecy: He thinks no girl would be in a relationship with him, therefore he stops trying, therefore no girl would be in a relationship with him.

To be clear though, I'm not advocating for asking out someone who is actively avoiding you, or someone who already made it clear in some way that she's not romantically interested. Like if you confess and she says no, he should give up, yes. But not before it's confirmed that his suspicion is correct. I've been rejected many times, all times so far, in fact. I have always stopped the romantic approach towards that person once I knew they didn't like me romantically. A couple I'm still friends with to this day. Others that I wasn't particularly as close with before, no, especially once the thing keeping us together ended (as an example, a high school crush after high school was over).

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

That's fair. As a socially anxious guy, I probably would go for the "If you want" and/or "If you can't/don't want to that's ok" route.

I wouldn't necessarily say that the person on the left in the picture is aware the advance is unwanted, though. Of course, it's an AI picture, that guy does not exist, but speaking of a hypothetical person with even worse social anxiety than even myself, I could see one like that using "Sorry". Not because he knows that the advance is unwanted (though it could be that he knows, it just depends by case), but because he assumes any advances from him will be unwanted. Getting rejected every single time would make it hard to assume "Ok but surely next time will be ok", and so you would operate, from the start, under the assumption that the other person doesn't want to talk to you.

I don't know if my point is coming across too well, but basically what I'm trying to say is this: Once you get to the point where you think every single interaction coming from you is unwanted (which is probably false. Even if most are, it's highly unlikely all are), then you kinda stop differentiating between when someone actually doesn't want to talk to you, and when you're overthinking but you're actually incorrect. So if the guy would stop trying to interact with people he thinks don't want to talk to him, he'd essentially stop trying to interact period.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

I tend to agree with you in that most people are too addicted to the convenience. But yeah, Balaquina does make a good point. After all, a commonly cited reason as for why the Fediverse won't rival mainstream sites is that making an account is more complex. Even then, it's just choosing an instance, which isn't that hard, it's just more complicated in comparison to, say, Reddit or Twitter. So following the same logic, it very well could backfire if Spotify raises the barrier of entry (or barrier of continuous entry, for those who already have accounts that they will have to verify).

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

Is "two weeks" the new "day 1"?

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

I don't get the uncanny valley from them, but I guess that can vary from person to person, so that's fair.

The thing about chats being filled with too many people for any one person to matter I agree with. But that's a big streamer thing, not exclusively a vtuber thing.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago

Minami. She's a Japanese artist that I've seen live, well... 0 times. Turns out if you mainly only listen to Japanese music and you live in Europe, concerts don't work out too well for you.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 months ago

I joined about half a year after the 3rd party apps died. Reddit's decision back then still feels like it was more recent than just 2 years ago, though...

Can time stop speedrunning itself, please?

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Sweden is one of the non-obvious countries (that being places that aren't like... UK, USA, Australia, etc) that I would have expected to be on this map. So that makes sense that that they're close, just not 90% or higher.

Although I've never been to Sweden, so admittedly my assumption wasn't based on anything.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 3 points 8 months ago

I know. I've seen the context. I was just saying that I was hoping it was AI just because the alternative is so messed up.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 46 points 8 months ago (8 children)

I'm not American, so I'm just now catching up with what happened over there yesterday. The first time I saw this image (elsewhere), I was praying that this was AI-generated. And I hate seeing AI-generated stuff and I'm not religious either. I still wish it was AI but now I know it's not and... jesus christ.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago

The Nazis are associated with the Holocaust rightfully so, but it ends up with people thinking that all it entails is anti-semitism. Trump and Elon Musk can back Israel and be Nazis.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

There also seems to be a mistake in the first map. Down where it says "The least obsessed with spending time online", all three countries actually have the same time as the country above them, from the most obsessed. Japan should have 3:45, but it's noted as 9:38, same as South Africa above it. I could at least tell their actual average from looking at the country, but I can't do the same with Denmark since the text is too small on the map for it.

At least the second and third map don't have that issue, but yes, the color scheme is odd.

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