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I did comment on the main post. And now I'm choosing to disengage.

I joined in July 2023 (on my first account on .world) and had nearly the opposite experience. I expect a certain amount of misogny in male dominated online spaces and it's definitely not sunshine and roses here, as per the occasional trolls who hop into the women's only community, but my first thoughts were of how little toxicity I saw, compared to other platforms.

That said, I curate my feed, mainly stick to communities I subscribe to, and (usually) disengage when the communication isn't effective.

The Argonaut Melampus cured the insanity of the daughters of Proteus with hellebore and urged them to join with young and strong men. Melampus believed woman's madness derived from their uterus being poisoned with 'venomous humors', due to a lack of orgasms.

Thanks for being a bro, the Argonaut Melampus.

More to the point, I migrated from lemmy.world to sh.itjust.works by going through the instance list here: https://join-lemmy.org/ ...and picking an active one in my country with a list of rules I could live with.

But as others have said, it's basically the same experience unless you pick an instance with aggressive rules and/or defederated from the ones you don't like. Otherwise you're just seeing the same people and communities.

I don't think I've ever had an issue with a blahaj user, so there's that.

Don't have one.

Depending on your workplace, there may be avenues for making complaints. If someone is being rude/unreasonable, it could help to direct them with something like: "I understand this is a difficult situation. We're trying to navigate it and will follow up in (time) at (contact.) If you have complaints about how we've handled this, here is the (name/number/e-mail.)" This redirects their energy and gives them a solid plan to follow. Sometimes people just like it when there's a plan.

Moving location can ease tension. You can say "Hi, I'm (name,) would you like to come over here and explain what's going on?"

If you avoid conflict, it could help to explain those feelings to your coworker and just ask them what you can do to help them (as you have.) Or discuss difficult scenerios they have to deal with and give you clear suggestions on what to do in (x) situation. People like plans, again.

If you work at a hospital and someone is legitimately having a meltdown over something, as in they're being completely irrational and may turn violent, can you call a psych nurse/doc/security?

Alternatively, I knew a security guard who always carried saltwater taffy in his pockets. If people got heated, he would throw it on the ground and go "Look! Candy!" He said it was effective 100% of the time.

I'm on new antidepressants so I can't reach the finish line but they upped my adderall, too, so I have the motivation to keep trying. I'm real sore, guys.

I hitch-hiked thousands of kilometers in my younger years, Barrie was the only place the cops picked me up and drove me out of town limits. It was the only time I've ever been in the back of a police cruiser, too.

“Another futile attempt to breach the legal naval blockade and enter a combat zone ended in nothing,” the Foreign Ministry wrote on X.

That's some Lex Luthor sounding shit right there.

...when you’re in an echo chamber all the weird misinformation and emotion-driven politics are coming from inside the house.

I love this and I'm stealing it.

I used to get a lot more freelance writing and design gigs before AI. It was great under the table money because, at times, I recieve partial support for my disability, and they deduct from my monthly funds if I make money. It's not enough to live on to begin with, so I relied on side gigs for any savings at all.

Now? I get none. Former clients have outright told me it's just cheaper to use AI or Canva or whatever. I have friends with similar stories, so I wonder just how much of the unseen labor market was affected by this.

I don't blame AI. It's a neat technology and there's nothing inherently wrong with. I blame capitalism for stealing from artists, building unsustainably, and for creating a world where people have to worry about lost funds from designing bullshit web graphics and business cards instead of having the time, money and bandwidth to follow our passions.

The courts were understaffed at the beginning of covid. Not enough money and not enough people. On top of that, a stressed population at the start of a pandemic.

The prisons couldn't properly space people out and the cops, eager to justify their budget, they just kept arresting and ticketing people for minor offenses. They were asked to slow down and focus on major and violent crimes because the crown's office saw this coming since way before covid.

So, prosecutors had to go through thousands of charges in order to decide what to keep and what to drop. More tax money and labour and hours they didn't have to spare. Of course they'd miss things.

And this article points to a staff shortage and a filing system. It was too many emotionally challenged cops, a lack of social supports, and people who feel safer with more police, but not more lawyers to actually lay charges and prosecute offenders.