LucJenson

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[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 1 points 5 hours ago

Solid clarification and expansion there.

For the sake of expanding on cultural/social differences in other places, here in South Korea, most folks i see on dating apps in their 30s are without kids.

It's in the 30s that most relationships turn serious and get married.

I know two people here who got married in their 20s and had kids. Even the one who got married in their early 20s is open about how she maybe rushed into it.

My time in Canada supports everything you've said, mind you. If I hadn't experienced life here in Korea for so many years, I'd probably wholeheartedly agree without realizing that without knowing where OP lives, it's hard to describe what their potential dating windows are.

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 2 points 20 hours ago

I was fortunate to have a wonderful father. It wasn't until it was almost too late that I realized and thanked him.

Be firm, but reasonable. Be kind and sensitive. Tease because it gently builds tolerances. Lift up and build up, don't break down.

Encourage communication and support with understanding. Don't punish honesty. Encourage it and meet it with respect. Even when honesty reveals a wrongdoing, communicate the next steps to right the wrong. Help them walk those steps. But sometimes, let them take some of the steps alone to build independence.

Be there to catch them when they fall. Be there.

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is entirely dependent on where you're living. If you live in a large city, slim isn't the word I'd use.

Also, not weird or abnormal in a lot of the world. Lots of areas in Asia value education before relationships and encourage someone to be self-sufficient before marrying.

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago

No, I don't want them here, haha. This is my future home, I don't need that nonsense here! It's also my friend's bar, so I don't particularly want to ruin business for him. But I did talk with him about it later.

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

Well, that's comforting to hear!

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 38 points 2 days ago (12 children)

I recently met two Albertans out here in South Korea at a bar. They were on the other side of the bar from me, and when they walked past, I greeted them as an Ontarian and offered to shake their hands. They both declined the handshake and proudly announced, "We're not on the same team."

That was a few weeks ago. I'm still disturbed by it. I knew Albertans had a reputation because of the politicking there. But I hadn't realized it would be so blatant. That same night, two South Africans happily asked me my thoughts on Trump, and I was perhaps too honest in my first statement, and they grew upset with me and insisted he was good for Canadians and South Africans, both.

I left the bar not long after. Haven't seen those four come back, so there is a bright side to the story, at least.

[–] LucJenson@lemm.ee 1 points 3 days ago

I have a few, but each in their own categories.

  • Reality - Departures - A show where three fellows in Canada give up everything to travel the world together for a year, documenting their journey. One year becomes three. It released me of all my anxieties about leaving the comfort of my home and is now a gem of a series I keep close by. Shout out to Andres Dupuis, Justin Lukach, and Scott Wilson for being such a huge inspiration.

  • Live Action Drama/Comedy - Scrubs - The best medical drama out there. It is so well written, so impactful, and so enjoyable to go through. It helped me come to terms with my dad's passing.

  • Live Action Sitcom - Friends - 10 seasons of ups and downs, laughter, and tears. The show definitely told us life was gonna be this way. Can't go wrong with this classic.

  • Animated - Futurama - Another contender for one of the best written TV shows out there. It's so perfectly complete.

  • Anime - Log Horizon - I'm a long-time fan of both .hack// and Log Horizon. Both are incredible series. But Log Horizon is maybe a bit more compact and easy to follow for outsiders and is generally a more casual watch experience while still having solid continuity across the series.