TheAlbatross

That's great advice. It's really a good tip to feel okay experimenting with different styles until you find one you like. Finding the confidence to do just that will be a good lesson as well.

For what it's worth, I get my soaps and colognes from Barrister & Mann. Creating a signature scent can be a lotta fun and I get a lot of compliments on the ones I wear.

Being a well rounded person is also immeasurably good advice. If you want people to be interested in you, you need to be interesting

How do you intend to verify that? What benefit could I possibly have to lie to you about this?

Absolutely I can but can you tell me what value there is in me naming people in my life who you've never met? What good will seeing two names do? The attitude your carrying is just going to tell you that I'm lying no matter what.

You're not finding them because of your attitude.

There are PLENTY of women who will happily hook up with, date and love short men. I've personally met more than I can count.

Naw dude, it's manufactured and it's limiting you. Others may participate in this manufactured concept but its still manufactured. You're not gonna overcome that until you figure out how to destroy the part of you that believes this.

You need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it's simply hindering you. Not only that, it's only superficially true. It doesn't conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.

This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.

What do you mean?

Self improvement to realize an idealized self is it's own reward. In doing so, you become more attractive to people in a natural way. It's not contradictory. Chasing self improvement as a vehicle to love or sex has the pitfall of losing your motivation for self improvement when you suffer rejection, but rejection is normal, common, and not as big a deal as it can sometimes feel.

Seconding good grooming habits and fashion. You don't have to go crazy spending on this, just stuff that looks nice that fits you well.

Looks and height aren't as big factors as you think. Anyone who rejects you based on your looks or height was never going to be a good partner regardless of your looks or height. Carry yourself with confidence (fake it til you make it if ya gotta) and you'll find a lot more success. Also, rejection isn't life ending. No Means Next. Don't let it destroy you.

Have some interests and hobbies you genuinely enjoy. Be funny and able to make good conversations. Be a mensch. As you age, as well, that will matter A LOT more in dating than looks or height.

And get off the dating apps. They all suck for everyone.

Also, if you aspire to "improve yourself" to this end, make sure you're doing it FOR YOURSELF first and foremost. Not for love or sex or dating or any of that. If you put that up on a pedestal as your goal, it'll make it that much harder to maintain your good habits when things don't work out as you hope they will. If you want someone to love you, be someone who you love first.

Also also, a lot of this is far easier to say and read than it is to do, and that's okay. You cannot expect yourself to internalize a new mentality overnight nor is the path to success in any goal a straight line up. It's okay to do well some days and not well others, remind yourself you're on an upward trajectory in the long run and that it's okay to fall back a bit because you'll bounce back from it in the future.

I am 5'4". I've only recently dropped below 200 lbs. I've been with my current partner for years and before then I was a fucking SLUT. Don't be your own enemy in this and you'll do just fine.

God dammit, fuck these trucks and SUVs, what a waste!

How? What's improved? I still need to look up what the local working ours would be in a certain area I'm trying to call as 9-5 in what is currently EST would be 12-8 in PST. That's pretty much the same as checking the time zone difference. What's changed? It would also create regional specific timing. If I'm from North Carolina and I'm talking to someone from Sweden, the idea of "waking at four thirty in the goddamn morning" would need to be translated into a local understanding of what that means. I think this would create far more ambiguity than it would eliminate and I'm not sure what benefit comes from it.