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It'd be weird for them to gift hair rollers or a tube extension to a kid at a dentist's office, so I think I'm with the other commenter about it being a fused spring, I guess??

Loved this game back in the day. I never finished it because one level made me sick, but it was so fun I really regretted not playing all of it.

If I eat something that has gone bad and I get food poisoning, I might be unable to eat that food for a long time afterwards. Even if I really want to and miss it and am super careful to make sure it's safe. I might feel mildly sick even just from the smell of it. My body is just trying to protect me, and there's nothing inherently wrong with that food, but it sucks. Given time, and in some cases careful cautious introduction, I might be able to get it down again. Had this experience with a pot pie once, and it took a couple years to eat them again, even when I looked at the box and thought I wanted it for dinner.

With people, the reintroduction process feels unfair. It is unfair. You aren't the same person who hurt her, but unfortunately you're introducing similar feelings or experiences. She wants to kiss people again, she liked kissing people in the past, and she wants to kiss you specifically, when she considers you. But when the moment arrives, or she thinks about the moment arriving in reality, her body goes DANGER DANGER because one time she kissed someone and a horrible thing happened.

It's unfair to her, too. This is an unbelievably shitty thing to have to work through. She might even desperately want a relationship with someone kind, like I'm sure you are, but if she isn't able to know how long it will be until you can have the physical relationship you both want, it makes sense that she'd step back from you. This could take years to resolve, or it might never resolve. She might be being kind to you by turning you down, or she might be being selfish because she doesn't think she can handle navigating someone else's feelings while hers are so intense. It's fine if her reason is either, or both.

So, yeah, what she's describing sounds pretty normal for someone with trauma. I hope life treats you both with more kindness and you meet someone who can return your feelings, and she figures out a treatment that helps her find peace.

I can't find any studies on this. I don't really trust personal perception for this one, and I'm also curious.

Never sure how to answer this one, since I'm bi and like f/f as well. I tend to like particular dynamics in romance, and men are more likely to be depicted having some of them. There are some other dynamics women are more likely to be depicted having with each other, and when I'm in the mood for those stories I read more f/f.

Coral Island! It's been out a while but they had a major update recently. My farming/crafting life sim stretch continues.

It's interesting to hear from someone who used something like it. I never even thought about how much sweat would be a problem.

You never have to feel a particular way. If anyone says you have to feel bad, or that you shouldn't feel bad if you do, they're wrong. Not how feelings work. Some people feel better knowing that their abusers are shit because their folks are shit, and it had very little to do with you, other than your convenience as a victim when they wanted to hurt someone. But what you feel just is.

I try to just look at what I'm feeling, and accept it, without judgement. Don't turn away, but don't dwell. It makes it easier to decide reasonable action later. Not detached from emotion (impossible) but understanding it as a part and not the entirety of behavior, where right and wrong start to come into play.

I hope the kitten continues to improve. They're so fragile.

A lady I know got facebook scammed by someone pretending to be like a favorite actor of hers. She had brain damage from diabetes.

Scammers often make their scams slightly unbelievable so they only hit people who aren't entirely with it anymore. Dementia makes great targets.

The thought of reaching into my toolbox and pulling out a measuring tape that's labeled wrong without knowing it. He did a good job with this comic. That thought sucks so bad.