cygnus

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[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca -1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

In abusive relationships, abusive partners often apologize but are unwilling to make changes or behave differently. We see them using “sorry” as a child might; to make the situation okay without facing the consequences of their choices. We even hear abusers using apologies to manipulate their partners and avoid taking responsibility for their actions. Some common phrases abusers may use include, “I’m sorry I hurt you, but you shouldn’t have gotten me so angry,” or “I didn’t see healthy relationships growing up and don’t know what to do, I’m sorry.” While this may sound like an apology, it places the blame elsewhere instead of on the abuser’s choice.

Research and outcomes of partnerships in various contexts, including intimate partnerships, have shown these self-centered approaches do not drive collaboration, a core factor in healthy partnerships. Only when an abusive partner takes accountability for their actions and begins steps to prevent the behavior in the future (I.e., battering or counseling focused on changing the abusive mindset) can they begin to make amends.

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-if-my-abusive-partner-apologizes/

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca -2 points 3 days ago (2 children)

FYI what you're advocating and defending here is textbook abuser behaviour, so rather than belittling others you may want to get counseling.

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 46 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Whoa, this is a genuine surprise, but a welcome one. Can't wait to see the US shit fit in reaction to this.

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

This seems a foreign concept to many folks here and elsewhere online, but somehow I've managed to be horrified by Israel's genocide and want to end it, without ever thinking "you know what, the literal terrorists on the other side are good actually, death to Israel and all Jews".

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 92 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Time to tap the "Wilhoit's Law" sign again:

Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (7 children)

I find it hard to reconcile that with the video, but if they are willing to publicly apologize for it then they should be allowed into Canada.

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 days ago (9 children)

Me, an intellectual, looking at a guy wearing a Hezbollah flag and saying up Hamas, up Hezbollah: "actually that doesn't prove he likes Hezbollah"

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca -2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Some people here think everything is a Marvel movie with one perfectly good side and one perfectly bad one. Any deviation from that and they slap you with the "bad guy" label. Only a complete moron would read my post and interpret it as meaning I'm a zionist.

[–] cygnus@lemmy.ca 2 points 5 days ago

So perhaps the real story is simply “lots of tech marketers don’t understand their audience”. Which I think is true. When companies put their spec sheets and feature lists front and center, I’m definitely more likely to pay attention than if I have to dig through screen after screen of meaningless fluff to get any relevant details. So that’s something marketers could (but generally don’t) do to influence me.

It depends on the brand and who their target market is. I'd argue that Framework, for example, market in this way.

 

The CPC's shocking inability to read the room continues. Everyone is trying to distance themselves from the US, and they come up with this?

 

Leopards will enjoy a well-deserved meal. A few choice morsels:

In the 2008 presidential election, more than 75% of Madawaska voters cast their ballots for Barack Obama, a Democrat. Last November, Donald Trump received just over 50% of Madawaska’s vote, becoming the first Republican presidential candidate to carry the town in decades.

“My father had 13 kids. We all lived and worked on the farm. We were born and raised Democrats because back then, in the ’40s and ’50s, the Democrats were the working man’s party,” Morneault said. “When I told my dad I’d turned Republican, he called me a turncoat. A traitor.”

Both Morneault and Campagna say their politics are informed by their religion. The bulk of their support for Trump comes from his opposition to abortion, and much of their disdain for Democrats comes from their support for LGBTQ+ rights.

 

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/28766034

Sorry if this kind of question isn't allowed here, but I'm at my wit's end. VB randomly started launching on startup about 2 weeks ago (on EndeavourOS) and I can't figure out why. There's no shortcut in ~/config/autostart, it isn't in the KDE startup apps list, and I can't find anything virtualbox-related with systemctl either. There's also no setting in the VB app itself. WTF?

Based on recommendations in that thread, I also checked:

/etc/systemd/system
/etc/default/
vboxautostart.service
KDE "restore session" settings

Any ideas are much appreciated!

 

I don't think I've seen anyone else here with an 8:9 monitor, so I'll break the ice! The color theme is Layan Light; everything else is stock KDE.

 

It seems the bot has stopped reposting content from Reddit?

 

Sorry if this community isn't the right place to ask — I got a USB webcam that works great in Teams, but lags tremendously (3-4 seconds) in Zoom. I doubt the Zoom app is introducing that lag on its own, but how would I troubleshoot this?

This is on EndeavourOS (basically Arch)

 

Just picked one up. This is the best price I've seen this year. Very strange monitor but awesome for work - it even serves as a USB-C docking station with 90W power delivery.

 

Maybe I don't really understand what the Foundation does (or what the ED's role is), but this seems like a very odd choice, even by GNOME standards.

Edit to add source on the shamanism: https://web.archive.org/web/20231017185521/https://www.hollytheshamanartist.com/about

 

Even back in the Windows 3.1 or 95 days I didn't have to reboot this often - sometimes twice a day. Seems a bit excessive?

 

RESOLVED: it was caused by the app being flatpak. use Flatseal!

I have a network drive mounted to my computer (PopOS). I have read & write access to everything in the drive and can drag and drop files between two Nautilus windows, but if I try to drag a file from the network drive into an email for example, I get a popup about file permissions. Is it because flatpak apps don't inherit my user permissions?

 

(apologies in advance if this isn't the right community for this question)

I've been flirting with Linux on and off for about 15 years and I think I'm ready to make the switch mostly full-time. I use a laptop for work and have a Microsoft 365 plan with email and such. I need to replace that with something Linux-friendly and would much prefer something that works with a desktop email client. Easy syncing of email, contacts and calendar to Android is a must.

Proton seems like it might be a good option but the privacy features aren't a huge selling point for me so I'm open to other options!

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