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[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 weeks ago

Your message is just showing blank for me :/

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 7 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Look at Mr. I Can Last 20 Minutes over here.

Bragger

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 weeks ago

Ah! That makes sense. Thank you!

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 weeks ago

There have been nights when I definitely would have preferred indeterminately many genitalia, but to be honest, on a few occasions, one genetalius would have been preferable. Sometimes there are just too many verpi and not enough gurgustia.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 1 points 2 weeks ago

I'm afraid I cannot. I'm afraid Lemmy is far too emotional to handle the deep philosophical messages of "The Kirking of my Colon-ar"

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 weeks ago

Iunno. They're pretty entrenched. Remember how trump said he likes his steak well-done, and now all the trumpets burn their steaks when previously it was pretty much universal that rednecks wanted it rare enough to moo?

If trump came out as liking it up the ass, Billy Bob would be openly getting pegged in the background of a trump rally that very same night. Universal redneck acceptance of butt stuff. It's important to remember Trump is their god, not the God of Abraham. He's completely en-cult-ified the religious right to him.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I think I blocked that one out. When it revealed Vulcans descended from ancient Hylians it was very upsetting to me, because it completely retconned all the erotic Spock fiction I had written.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm not sure I've ever seen "genital" in the singular before, and now I'm trying to determine what qualifies as a singular genital and not the whole set of genitals.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 4 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

What is TOK era? In drawing a blank of what show is abbreviated TOK

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

Absolutely agree with you, but one thing to note is the existence of what's called representative payees. OP would have likely had to sign a form for it at 21, unless they were verifiably incapacitated at the time, but a rep payee is, for an intents and purposes, the beneficiary as far as the social security department is concerned.

Which is NOT to say don't leave. It just means that OP needs to contact social security the instant they are clear of danger or being overheard.

The moment you're safe, contact the SSD and ask them to verify your status as the primary on your account. If your mother (or someone else) is not the rep payee, then you're clear. If they are, you need to ask for the paperwork to transfer your benefits back to yourself, which may involve having to go through a judge. That said, keep a record of any communications between yourself and whoever the rep payee is. Ohio is a one party consent state, meaning you are legally allowed to record your phone calls as long as one party is aware and consents, namely yourself. Text based communication is easier, though.

If you are able to contact anyone (guessing you can since you're posting this) I would suggest contacting progressive organizations in your area. Women's shelters, even if you're male, may be able to help you, or direct you to someone who can help. Gay organizations often have some resources in place for teens who have disowned. The DSA, the episcopal church, the metropolitan community Church, the United Church of Christ, any Sikh, Buddhist, and often Hindu community centers are also notorious for being home to progressive members. Sadly, they likely don't have anything in place for such a rescue mission already, but they may well be a member willing to assist.

Best option is if there's an anarchist mutual aid org near you, but that's unlikely.

I wish you all the luck and success in there.

This also ended up longer than I anticipated going in, so posting it as a full comment in and of itself, too.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 61 points 2 weeks ago

Absolutely agree with you, but one thing to note is the existence of what's called representative payees. OP would have likely had to sign a form for it at 21, unless they were verifiably incapacitated at the time, but a rep payee is, for an intents and purposes, the beneficiary as far as the social security department is concerned.

Which is NOT to say don't leave. It just means that OP needs to contact social security the instant they are clear of danger or being overheard.

The moment you're safe, contact the SSD and ask them to verify your status as the primary on your account. If your mother (or someone else) is not the rep payee, then you're clear. If they are, you need to ask for the paperwork to transfer your benefits back to yourself, which may involve having to go through a judge. That said, keep a record of any communications between yourself and whoever the rep payee is. Ohio is a one party consent state, meaning you are legally allowed to record your phone calls as long as one party is aware and consents, namely yourself. Text based communication is easier, though.

If you are able to contact anyone (guessing you can since you're posting this) I would suggest contacting progressive organizations in your area. Women's shelters, even if you're male, may be able to help you, or direct you to someone who can help. Gay organizations often have some resources in place for teens who have disowned. The DSA, the episcopal church, the metropolitan community Church, the United Church of Christ, any Sikh, Buddhist, and often Hindu community centers are also notorious for being home to progressive members. Sadly, they likely don't have anything in place for such a rescue mission already, but they may well be a member willing to assist.

Best option is if there's an anarchist mutual aid org near you, but that's unlikely.

I wish you all the luck and success in there.

This also ended up longer than I anticipated going in, so posting it as a full comment in and of itself, too.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 4 points 2 weeks ago

For what it's worth, I've also noticed the same thing where I live in Tennessee. Smoked for 21 years (from 11 to 32), and while there are still a ton of smokers in my little hick town, it's much less than before.

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