You're right about emotional baggage and I could have been clearer. I don't want someone who's perfect or emotionally unavailable, just someone who's not dealing with as much as I am. It might seem entitled or whatever but there are plenty of disabled people who are married to non disabled people.
I would also make an effort to fix myself, mask, and not be a burden. Both partners have to be accommodating.
I don't mind having friends that are immature but sometimes they act like I hate them if I'm not interested in dating them. My friends also know when to get serious. I sympathize with you though. Dealing with immature people in the workplace would be extremely challenging.